Ok, so very long story short...
I had an ex - someone who I genuinely never really had any serious feelings for. We used to party a lot and it was a time in my life ( early 20s ) it was all I was doing. Since splitting up ( I left cus he was basically a waster and wanted to sort my life out ) we haven't seen each other at all ( in 10 years ) I've had no feelings towards him other than the odd ' oh I miss those time's a bit ' but more the being young and carefree although would never ever go back to doing that.
Annnyyywwaaayy, my now husband can be very paranoid and jealous. He is seeing a counsellor for this and started taking medication because it got to the point a few months ago I'd had enough. I generally don't have much of a life as we have a child with special needs however when I've tried to go out with friends or anything he's made it really difficult for me.
Since starting to see a counsellor he's been so so good. And I went out for the first time ( probably this year ) last Saturday. No bother he was great. I felt like we were finally getting somewhere.
And then I was dickhead. So I got to a charity thing for someone I knew way back when who recently passed away. Said ex was best friends with this person so I and dh always knew he would be there. Anyway, I seen him and naturally had a catch up it was good to see him however literally zero part of me fancied him or would ever go back there but was funny to reminisce and like I say catch up... I got fairly drunk I was having a really good time and for the first time in so long I felt like just me. The bar closed, and a friend of mine asked if I wanted to go back to theirs for a drink before I get a taxi home. ( they live 1 min away from bar ) start walking back and I soon realise ex is also coming back. I didn't think much of it tbh. I stayed for prob half hour and ordered a taxi ( getting home an hour from when I first arrived ) nothing happened just chatted, had a drink.
Anyway, told dh next day he went up the wall and has been quite poorly stressing over it this week and I feel AWFUL. I never ever ever wanted to hurt him especially as he'd been trying to hard. I've basically thrown it back in his face. I feel about it tbh. I've also kind proved him right.
My AIBU.... I have said to him after lots of going round in circles that we eventually need to get over it and he has to still trust me. I know he can trust me but I know I haven't really shown that I am trusty-worthy ( although first time this has happened in 10 years ) I feel like we're going to have to almost forget it happened and he can't keep me from going out ever again. But I feel like now he's going to and I dunno if I'm BU expecting him to be ok about it even though I've done this!
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Cinders29 · 21/11/2019 13:51
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