Can anyone tell me what to do? I am literally at the end of my tether. Eyes are stinging from crying, barely slept again because of OHs parents.
I hate them! I really, really cannot stand them. Im not going to get into the whole long drawn out story because we'll be here all night but basically they have been awful to me since the day they met me, it began with his sister and his brothers girlfriend being bitches to me...
Then the mother and father started. We have arguements regulary. We pretend to pass them off, if they decide to visit. We both always feel awkard around them. I feel actual contempt when I see his stupid bitch of a mother. They completely ignore our little girl - I mean, we live 15 minutes away and they will visit approx once every 2 - 3 months (and pretend to be all over her). They dont ring and ask if shes ok, even when they know shes sick. OHs brother is her godfather - he hasnt seen or asked for her since Christmas, text, call, nothing. Its not because they are not baby people - they ADORE their other grandchild (2 months older than dd)
Anyway, another arguement last night about the stupidist thing in the world. OH has had enough and ended up screaming on the phone to his mother telling her "thats it, fck off, dont ever come near me or any of my children again, I cant take anymore from you" He said hes finished with them(they have always treated him differently - probably because he is* different from his 4 other siblings)
Thing is, our wedding is arranged for next year. What do I do? - I told OH last night that he was just angry, doesnt mean it, will feel differently when he sleeps on it etc... but he woke up saying all he feels is relief to get rid of them. Its an awful situation - I dont want him to loose his family basically, IMO because of me, because they never liked me (he said it stems further and would have happened anyway - not the most close knit family in the world) do I encourage him to make it up? or leave it as it is? -
I dont want to make this about me because I have my own family and it would be completely be unfair to him but I just wish they would go away. I would be happy if I never, ever seen any of them again, they have added so much pressure to our relationship over the past few years - so many arguements. He says he doesnt care, just wants rid but (and I know im being selfish) I dont want him to turn around in a few years and say I made him loose his family (I would never give him an ultimation) or what if something, God forbid, happened to one of them? what about our wedding next year? it would be so awful for him if they dont go(or we dont invite them) (he says he doesnt want them there - but thats now) thing is, I know we would be soooooooooooo much happier with them out of our lives, things would be so much easier. He thinks this too. But I want to right by Oh. I really cant stand them.
So sorry for the length of this post. If anyone is still awake now, im sorry for rambling on. Thank you for reading, I just needed to write it down. x
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BarbieLovesKen · 24/07/2007 21:21
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