Who was wrong in this situation

[ER1992]

This could be quite long but I will try my best to keep it short although don't want to miss out the details.

Back story - me and my best friend went our separate ways around 3 years ago when she had her 1st born and naturally both leading totally different lives we no longer had much in common. My husband had never been keen on her as even before she had her 1st born she would always let me down last minute and I would always have to go along with what she wanted to do and I never got a say or if I tried she would get the hump with me.

Move forward 3 years to now - we got back in contact at the end of last year when I had my first born and she was pregnant with her 2nd. We never became as close as we were before but I tried to give the friendship a 2nd chance. However all the times I have tried to arrange to meet up with her she agrees to the plans and always cancels on me last minute with silly excuses. My husband told me she will never change and to back off from her as I have better friends which is true but I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt and keep trying.

Now moving onto yesterday - we spoke the previous night and had planned to meet at soft play at a specific time. I got there for when we had planned to see no sign of her. Waited 10 mins for her to then send me a message to ask if I could go to hers instead because it was raining and she didn't want to go out. Now if I'd have had this message before I had left home this would have been fine but I'd driven in totaly the wrong direction to her house and after this being about the 10th time she'd cancelled/changed plans I was naturally annoyed. I was honest and told her I was annoyed with her as it had been raining all day and she'd had all morning to ask me to go to hers instead so told her I was going to go home and we would arrange something for a different day instead. This followed by her sending me abusive messages telling me how nasty I am and no one likes me etc. I didn't reply to any of these as it was unessaisary and after receiving the 3rd message with abuse I decided to just block her so she can no longer contact me. In my eyes the friendship is done.

Later that evening my husband tells me she has messaged him trying to get him to turn against me and to stick up for her. He had read the messages I sent her and agreed I had done nothing wrong yet she made out to him that I'd been totally unreasonable. She didn't seem to understand he had read the messages and would stick up for me. She went on to tell him she what's to remain friends with him etc (they've never been friends and he's never liked her so I'm not sure what she was trying to achieve). Was she trying to cause us to argue? I'm not sure but he also went onto block her.

So was I in the wrong by not bowing down to her and going to hers or should she have understood why I would be annoyed and be OK with sorting something for another day.

[PanteneProV]

Of course yanbu - she sounds absolutely mental and was definitely stirring up shit with your husband. Keep her blocked on all channels!

[BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz]

Yanbu at all! I normally meet in the soft play So I'd not be leaving having paid the extortionate entrance fees just to then go sit in someone's house.

Her reaction to you saying no was disgusting and shows clearly what kind of person she is.

[H2OH20Everywhere]

What you did wrong was not to meekly follow her commands as you 'should' have done. And her contacting your DP was a toddler lashing out because you said no. She sounds an entitled bitch and you’re well rid. I feel sorry for her children.

[tomcatspray]

She's shown her true colours now so you should have no doubt that you did the right thing.

Walk away and don't look back.

[RebootYourEngine]

You should have walked away a long time ago. She sounds selfish, rude and a nightmare to be around.