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AIBU?

To speak to my neighbours about their children?

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BigHero4 · 19/04/2019 16:07

I'm not usually one to moan and obviously it's a lovely day and their children should be in the garden having fun however they have 2 DC and all they want to do is climb up their fence (it's a high privacy fence) and look into my garden. Every time I'm in the garden their sitting on the fence and watch everything I do. They say hello and just sit there all the time but the neighbours don't ask them to get down or to stop looking into my garden.

I want to go outside and have a cigarette in peace but I can't because they're always climbing up and watching me.

WIBU to ask the neighbours to stop them or am I being miserable?

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Someoneonlyyouknow · 19/04/2019 16:52

You might want to let your neighbours know that you are planning to paint your side of the fence this weekend and don't want their DC to get covered in paint? And hope the novelty of watching you wears off because you can't keep panting the top few inches of fence every holiday! Although, you can get anti-vandal paint which stays sticky and is impossible to wash off.

bringbacksideburns · 19/04/2019 16:54

God I used to have this. The boy was a dead ringer for Damian Omen with ice cold unwavering eyes. It went on a bit and then they got bored.
Can you not position yourself so all they see is the back of you for the time being?

Then look into putting some extra privacy panel up or plant something that will grow high?

Bluelonerose · 19/04/2019 16:55

I had this.
I used to say to them do you want to get down in case you fall.
Soon buggered off.

Bbang · 19/04/2019 16:59

Turn the hose on them 🤣🤣

Joking . . . . Just 👀

Tell them, just say ‘get down please and stop looking into my garden, it’s rude’ they’ll soon scarper

AcrossthePond55 · 19/04/2019 16:59

I'd probably buy a big stand umbrella, one of the tilting kind, and put it between me and the children as I sat there.

As far as 'looking into your garden', a cat may look at a king. If it's their fence unfortunately I guess their entitled to sit on it. If it your fence, tell them to get off it and stay off it.

Heaviestdirtyestsoul · 19/04/2019 17:10

We have this, two kids from next door, 6.5 foot fence, they have their trampoline against it and climb up using the net to lean right over the fence- it frightens me, they also hurl insults at my six year old son, whole other kettle of fish there. When asked super nicely to get down, you get told to get f**d and when you say to the parent that they're doing this she starts screaming that her children wouldnt do that. I'm tempted to buy a super soaker...

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/04/2019 17:11

I wouldn't say anything but I would plant some climbers on trellis asap.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 19/04/2019 17:14

Although, you can get anti-vandal paint which stays sticky and is impossible to wash off.

I was going to suggest this - just the top foot or so - you don't want to risk brushing against it yourself.

Drum2018 · 19/04/2019 17:17

I'd say it from a safety point of view - tell the parents you are concerned that they could fall or that the fence could fall while they are climbing on it.

Tara336 · 19/04/2019 17:21

I had this with neighbours kids they would climb the fence (ours) and look k straight in our living room and shout things, there was no way the DM didn’t know they were doing it, she just didn’t care. They were a rough family and whole street were relieved when they moved (they didn’t feel well electric me apparently 🙄)

Tara336 · 19/04/2019 17:21

Welcome

thenightsky · 19/04/2019 17:22

Plant pyracantha.

crimsonlake · 19/04/2019 17:33

When I first moved in to my house I had this. Neighbours grandchildren climbing on the fence to peer over, I immediately said sternly but nicely 'get down now. ' These neighbours before I moved in have erected a really high trampoline next to my patio for their grand children. It really bugs me, but I just try to ignore and am now growing several bamboo plants in pots to act as a screen.
I used to be detached and have a large private garden, now I have several properties backing on to me. Whilst gardening this afternoon I have had to endure loud music, why do people think others should be subjected to this? Some people seem to have absolutely no volume switch when they are talking to one another. I do not want to hear every word of my neighbours loud conversation. I always try to be considerate of my neighbours and cannot understand the mentality of those who do not.

leckford · 19/04/2019 17:36

Fast growing rambler rose

AWishForWingsThatWork · 19/04/2019 17:45

"Please go play and stop staring into my garden, thank you." Firmly but loudly. If that doesn't work, ask their parents to ask them to stop this behaviour. It's not reasonable.

TixieLix · 19/04/2019 17:52

Stand there and stare right back at them with a mean look on your face. Maybe use that time to be sharpening your kitchen knives or something .

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