Parents making their dcs Easter bonnets..

[MummyCool19]

Aibu to think children who parents have clearly made their dc bonnets shouldn’t win first prizes at school/nursery.

Dd is 2 and goes to a play school. They had an Easter bonnet comp, Dd absolutely loved making here, sticking it all on. It looked a mess but clearly she made it. Another child made a full on bunny popping out of a basket on top of the hat, another made a huge one. Both won.

Aibu to be annoyed 😂

[Sawyershair]

Oh this proper fucks me off

DD didn’t want to make one, but there is a little girl in her class who made it completely by herself, crown cut from cereal boxes, all decorations made from things found in the home, painted by herself etc. The boy who won comes from a really wealthy family and had some ridiculous huge thing I think he only saw ten minutes before they handed it in.

The little girl comes from a really low income family and my heart fucking broke for her [anger]

[Sawyershair]

Meant to say I included the stuff about incomes because his parents had clearly spent money buying all the different bits (bunny was like a Sylvanian type thing but huge)

Still annoyed for her now!

[Korvalscat]

When dd was in nursery I was working full-time, I forgot all about her Eater bonnet until the night before and she mentioned it as I was putting her to bed. I was up 'til after midnight handmaking the bloody thing with cardboard and tissue paper (this was pre-internet in mot homes). I was quite proud of it, even though I had made it slightly to small for her head, then I saw what the other Mum's had produced! Mine was the only one that looked as if the child had done it
Next year I bought a straw hat and a metric tonne of chicks, bunnies and eggs and dd and I glued everything on that thing - she loved it. Year 2 I recyled the year 1 one, patched the bits where the chocolate eggs had been removed (and threw away the overlooked ones) bunged some ribbons on the back and called it done - dd didn't care as she already knew who was going to win, except that year the teacher said they were all so good she couldn't pick a winner and they all got a creme egg - it was brilliant the dc were happy and some Mum's had faces like thunder

[Korvalscat]

Sorry Reception not Nursery - we escaped in Nursery - they made baskets.

[Korvalscat]

Should have proofread, Easter, most, *too. Sorry for typos and grammar

[Aragog]

Because of this in our latest school baking 'competition' we had a prize category for parents and a category for children - and said clearly what 'help' was allowed for the children.

Worked a treat.

[Siameasy]

The sinister Easter bonnet is one of my fave threads along with fat balls
I wanted to make DD one like that but she’s all pink and sparkly and won’t have any of it

[Hippee]

That said, I remember a girl at school winning nothing in the decorated cake competition in the village fete. Her cake was the most amazing basket with piping and flowers and they clearly didn't think she had made it herself - but she had!

[BasilBrushes]

DS won once, purely because he made the whole thing himself. I was really proud.

[Finalyfine]

Ds1 got 2nd place. It was clearly made by him.

[KickAssAngel]

I live in the US and for Halloween (we don't do Easter at school) there's a parade and the parents turn up to cheer and clap the kids as they walk around in their costumes. It's really fun & collaborative, Of course kids discuss which ones they like the best but it's done in a really nice "oh look, that's great" way.

No competition and still lots of fun without any 5 year olds in tears for not winning.

[Eustasiavye]

Well I know parents of university students who do their dcs creative work!

I think this makes the case for exam only assessment.

[Gertie75]

dd's got hers tomorrow, she's made it herself so it's rather unique (she's 6) although I did help with the bits that needed the hot glue.
Her classmates Mum was saying in the playground today that she's spent all afternoon making her dd's bonnet and she's very into her crafts so it'll be interesting to see who wins.

My own Mum still seethes about how I didn't win 30 years ago at Brownies with my fabulous creation because the Brown Owls daughter always won.
These competitions scar us for life!

[Cherrysherbet]

The thing is, kids aren’t daft. My dd always makes things herself and I try hard not to get involved! She knows she won’t win, and always tells me that it was obvious because so and so’s mum made hers!

Why can’t parents just let the kids do it? and why can’t the teachers tell everyone that entries should be made by the children? Tbh I think parents who want their child to win so badly that they stay up half the night to create a masterpiece are just desperate, sorry.

[needsahouseboy]

This is why we i no longer bother entering my son and he is also of the same mindset. Why bother when other parents are going to do it for them and win. It is nothing about the kids ability at all. Very very sad

[OwlinaTree]

I think often it's who does the judging. If the teachers judge it is often ones that look like the children did it, but sometimes the judges aren't so in tune with what children are likely to have done.

In our school we ask the dinner supervisors to judge and they always pick ones which look like the child has done some of it at least!

[OwlinaTree]

Sometimes a local business donate prizes for eg, and someone from there judges who's not so familiar with children.

[CloserIAm2Fine]

If they’re compulsory and DC won’t do them then let them have the consequences of not doing it, not do it for them!

I have a friend who is ridiculously competitive about her child’s stuff like this (her DD is 3), she’s never allowed near “her” creations until it’s time for her to hand them in.

When my sister was little she won the bonnet competition with a homemade by her thing that she’d made out of a cardboard box and painted in true 6 year old style. Which is how it should be!