To want to suffocate my DP?

[mcjx]

He just won't stop snoring! It's so frustrating I honestly want to scream.

And to top it off he has a cold so his nose is blocked and it's making the snoring louder

He doesn't believe he has a problem even though I've recorded how loud it is and he gets angry when I mention the problem.

The other morning it was particularly bad at 5.30am so I tapped him, he woke up and swore at me and spoke to me quite nastily. He doesn't remember this at all but now I'm worried to wake him up to tell him to stop..

What do I do!? I need some sleep.

[Smotheroffive]

Right, so which one of us would find it hilarious that we'd kept our oh up half the night and the rest from the noise we were making.

So glad you lost you shit he had that coming.

You are suffering and he thinks it funny

[TeaforTwoBiscuitOrThree]

Earplugs, the waxy, mouldable ones from Boots. Work a treat.

[Hahaha88]

My partner is ridiculous for snoring. He wears a mouth guard thing, nose plug and a jaw strap (his tongue is huge and falls back in his mouth when he sleeps, he's not a nasal snorer) and I wear foam and putty ear plugs at the same time and I kid you not he still wakes me up. He's been referred for some tests by the doctor, but currently we do not share a bed as it's literally torture for me. So I feel your pain OP. Don't stand for it though. Tell him he's on the sofa til he sorts it out. It's not fair on you

[mcjx]

@DoneLikeAKipper I've heard of polyps but didn't think it could be that. His sense of smell and taste is fine and he's never had a nosebleed.

I believe the GP checked his nose and ears this morning. She did say he had bleeding in his ear and they looked very red. I've no idea what's going on with him to be honest, I'm hoping these antibiotics help him

[DoneLikeAKipper]

I'm not sure if it's something to do with his sinuses, he often has a stuffy nose that never seems to really go away.

Urgh, I think we’re living with the same bloke. He buys new cotton handkerchiefs as often as socks and pants. Did the doctor check up his nose? Does he have other symptoms like loss of smell/taste?

www.nhs.uk/conditions/nasal-polyps/

Just in case this resonates with anything.

[mcjx]

I'm not actually sure why he snores. It is particularly worse at the moment though but he has been to the GP this morning and she has said he has an infection of some sort so has given him antibiotics.

I'm not sure if it's something to do with his sinuses, he often has a stuffy nose that never seems to really go away. We have tried Olbas inhalers/drops, nasal sprays, steam inhalation and Sudafed but it doesn't seem to be working.

He's not overweight, doesn't smoke and he never drinks.

I told him this morning I'd been up the night and I played back a recording of how loud he was. He seemed to think it was funny until I lost my shit and told him how pissed off I am

I'm knackered!

[Damntheman]

Snoring could be used as torture in my opinion. I can't stand the noise, it gets under my skin and winds me up until I'm hot and stressed and anxious. You poor thing OP!

You may need to shock him into actually realising how serious this problem is. This kind of thing can and has broken up marriages before. Go to your mum's until he's admitted it's a problem and taken clear steps to try to resolve the issue.

People who snore need to be actively doing something to try to resolve the problem in my opinion. It's not fair on their potential partners to just ignore it.

[DoneLikeAKipper]

I'm surprised this is such a big issue.

I’m not sure how what you’ve posted relates to the OP - ‘my husband’s snoring doesn’t affect me, so why do you have a problem’, umm because obviously her husband’s snoring is actually causing issues? What a weird reply.

mcjx, what do you think is the cause of his snoring? Is he overweight? I’m also concerned by my partner’s snoring, but he’s actually (just) within a normal BMI and doesn’t drink. It’s got to the point where he mouth-breaths during the day (sounds like Darth fucking Vader). I think he might have polyps but he also has put off the doctor for years now. He sleeps in the spare room, it’s his choice not to sort it, so it’s his choice not to share a bed with me.

Ultimately, snorers are putting their health at risk. If he’s ok with risking an early death through stroke/sleep apnea/being fucking smothered, well at least you’ll get a peaceful night sooner rather than later (if you want to put it to him bluntly).

[Stawp]

Buy this and something that squirts up the nose to clear blocked noses.

www.boots.com/snoreeze-snoring-relief-oral-device-10217887

[foxtiger]

I'm surprised this is such a big issue. My DH snores sometimes and he says I do too (obviously I don't hear it as I'm asleep). If I happen to wake up and he's snoring I'll usually wait a little while to see if he stops of his own accord, and if not, I'll either change position myself so I can't hear it or do what someone mentioned upthread - just press on his side until he shifts position slightly. I've always told him he's welcome to do the same to me but I don't think he does.

I wake up in the night occasionally even if there's no-one snoring, so I don't see it as a problem if he's sometimes snoring when I wake up. I don't think the snoring wakes me up as such.

[Scott72]

If you haven't got a spare room you can sleep in, perhaps you could put a mattress in the corner of the living room and sleep there.

[Shazafied]

(Of the room)

[Shazafied]

Why should anyone have to spend their sleep time doing this? Is this really what women do?

I don’t, fuck that. Kick him out !

[Smotheroffive]

If you put one hand on him, he will wake up enough to stop snoring but not enough to get cranky
So....that's what someone must do all night through, every night then...oooo god no!

Why should anyone have to spend their sleep time doing this? Is this really what women do?

[learieonthewildmoor]

If you put one hand on him, he will wake up enough to stop snoring but not enough to get cranky.
If he does get cranky, you have to get cranky back. Be really firm with him. You waking him up to turn over is completely fair.
We bought my DH a latex anti-snore pillow, it has a curved surface and keeps his airway open at night. It has really reduced his snoring.

[Smotheroffive]

Being overweight and drinking are both big contributing factors,bit pointless us knowing this as its only them as can do owt about it.

[Shazafied]

My husband and I sleep in separate rooms due to his snoring. He won’t do anything about it so I sleep in the main bedroom and he sleeps in the spare one. It’s not great for our marriage and sometimes he moans about this - but still won’t go to the doctors, so his problem really. He also used to be nasty to me during the night when I asked him to roll over and I have him hell the next day every time - I’m not standing for that shit on top of sleep deprivation.

I’ve washed my hands of it. When he finally gets so tired of
Sleeping in the spare room he goes to the gp we might get some progress. Earplugs and white noise did nothing for me in terms of drowning out his boar like snoring.

[Ferfeckssake]

Sleep deprivation from constantly being woken up by snoring is the pits. There is a reason it is used as torture.
I hate that DH minimises it , like I am being unreasonable to complain .I did record him and he did agree it was bad , but because he doesn't do it on purpose , thinks it is not his problem. And gets resentful when I kick him out to spare room. Can't force him to tell GP , so the battle continues. I make sure he knows how pissed off I am , when I am so cranky after a few nights through broken sleep.
Short of smothering him, no idea what to do.

[givemesteel]

I would get a key lock on your bedroom and just go in there before he does and lock the door.

Leave him to sleep on the sofa until he admits it is a problem and gets help.

I do think it is grounds to end a marriage over if he won't change as ultimately he doesn't give a shit about your basic need for sleep.

[Smotheroffive]

Get him to the doctors ha ha, what is he, a baby?!/

He's chosen his path, ignore you, you don't matter

[EnchantingRaven]

What about those anti snoring pillows? I’m sure Aldi we’re selling them not so long ago, also not sure if they work as I’ve not used them. People on FB seemed to speak highly of them though.

I feel for you my DP goes through phases of snoring usually when he’s on his back - drives me mad. Luckily he’s not been in that phase for a while tho.

[jakscrakers]

Get him to the doctors and they will get him checked for Sleep Apnea this is one big cause of snoring, I didnt believe it either until i got checked and I had it bad, since i have my CPAP no more snoring, and every morning I actually feel refreshed I have a full sleep its fantastic, okay a bit strange getting used to sleeping every night with a mask on, but it can save your life, your relationship and no more grumpy mornings when you dont think your grumpy but everyone else is ;)

[OffToBedhampton]

@mcjx

Good luck tomorrow at GP. Snoring is awful if it keeps you awake. I feel your pain as my DP/DH of 18 years refused to do anything about it. And if you listen to them (i spent hours and hours listening, it doesn't sound heathy as interferes with breathing)

I used to go to bed before my snoring (now) XH and be fast asleep. He woke up our 3 DC in their different bedrooms as his snoring was so loud, like there was building work going on ! I slept through most of it but regularly was woken up by kids or him (I'm a bit deaf and a heavy sleeper but not through children crying as they'd been woken up by pneumatic drill and even I couldn'rlt sleep through his noise once woken most nights early hours at some point)

I'd say "turn over" a few times in early hours every night, gently shake his shoulder and whisper "just flipping turn over snory!"

He never once woke up when even kids were wailing for 30+mins (with me settling them as i'd wake up!) merrily snoring his way through the night.

I get why you want to smother your DH! I divorced mine (but not for his snoring, tempting though that was!). Having good night's sleep since has been a bonus!!

[doradiamond]

My DH uses nasal strips and they've been life-changing. If he's waking himself up though, it's now becoming a health issue as he might have sleep apnea which causes him to partially stop breathing during the night.