to ask you who loves you?

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My dc 100% Well 99% I think.

My parents about 90% each

Nobody else lol.

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My dad is dead too but he still loves me.

My three boys.
My husband.
My parents.
My parents in law.
Not sure about my sister
Two of my friends.

Dh 100%. Took him a long time, but once he committed he went all in.

Parents 100% but not me as a separate person, but as their daughter. Not sure they'd even like me if I wasn't fruit of their loins. Sister, not sure about. Think it's 'duty' love, but I can depend on her 100%.

Good friends love me in various ways to the best of their abilities.

Cat hates me (No idea why as I treat him like a king lol).

Me 100%. Taken 50 years, but i actually do love and accept myself now.

I haven't got any friends either...from my experience that's not too unusual. I don't mind either, I'd rather have colleagues and acquaintances...I find it easier to have casual friendships outside of family. I did have one really close friend who I would have said I loved but we rarely saw each other as she moves around a lot. When I had DS she barely sent me an email and still hasn't seen him after 16 months so I think that friendship has probably run its course!
So...I know that DS loves me, DH, parents and I think ILs. I have 3 siblings but only think that one really loves me and she's the only one I really love too.

Me.

My father, and stepmother.

I still feel the love from my mother even though she’s dead.

My partner.

My close friends (I’d say there are about... 10, maybe 15, I would say genuinely love me and I love in return). But also a fair number of friends who care about me and would be there for me even if we’ve not been close enough for long enough for it to deepen into love.

I don’t know what I’d do without the love of my friends, as I barely have a family left.

@Toupholsterornot I hope you are okay

Husband, children, partners, grandchildren, cousin, friends

I had this question asked of me in counselling, OP. Who loves, as in truly loves you?
It’s a really good question.
I said my DD, then added: for now. Because somehow I managed to believe that all/most mother daughter relationship are fraught. So that’s something I’m working on: how do I ensure I don’t alienate my DD? What kind of relationship do I build with her?

My DB loves me unconditionally. We have a really really close relationship, always had. He loves my DD above anybody else in this world.

My group of girlfriends love me. We’ve all been through good and bad times and we stuck together.

But that doesn’t help you, OP, does it?

We all crave to be loved and supported just as we are. Past experiences have shaped us and we’ve learnt that love has so many nuances and depths.
What we need is an anchor in a safe port. Some were born with it, some built their own, some were thrown down the river in a basket.
Where is our anchor?
For now I choose it to be my home. It’s where I go to feel save and loved and to look after myself and others.
HTH

Dog
Sister
Parents
Grandparents
Uncle
Possibly 2 close friends

8FencingWire I am extremely close to my mum, talk to her on the phone everyday. She isn't perfect of course but she is always on my side, even if she doesnt really agree! She is strict but fair and loving.

DS and my cat.

My kids.
My ex (complicated)
My mum
My dad
My sisters
My other ex (friends now)

That's about it. But it's more than sufficient. :)

My dog. He REALLY loves me!
My DD
My parents
My sister
My niece and nephew.

I guess that is it. I do live in the same street as my sister and parents though so it feels like a LOT of love most of the time!

nessie, that’s lovely to hear :) I don’t envisage DD calling me every day, but I hope she’ll always know I’ll always be on her side :)

Hmmm... Interesting question.
My kids definitely 100%
DH (99% sure)
My parents? They have a strange way of showing it.
I honestly believe I have 3 female friends who do love me, and that's about it!

Quite possibly no one. Parents definitely did but they are dead now. No other close family. Have a couple of friends who I’m sure care about me but I wouldn’t say they loved me.

Thank you leukae. I am ok. Just fed up. 31 weeks pregnant now and also looking after my sils kids for a week. She has 3 I have 3. And not one person says thanks. Just constant demands. Been up comforting her youngest all night because she didn't call and a dh who works full time 7 days a week. I need a holiday!

DH, DS, DPs, DB, SIL, DNs, GPs aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, even PILs. Lots of people, and all of them would be and have been there when I need support. Some people don't have close families but you can build a circle of close friends (if that's what you want)

@Toupholsterornot you do. You are doing awesomely coping with all of that plus pregnancy. Be kind to yourself

Thanks leukae.

My mother - I'm closer to her now she's a widow and older.

Sometimes me - when I'm not feeling depressed or unhappy.

Not my siblings who rarely contact me and generally when they want something it feels...

Maybe I have a high threshold for what I consider love to be. That's not a bad thing OP. It's the ultimate truth.

DH, our two cats, my parents and my nephew. Probably in that order.
Definitely none of my siblings lol who are all generally awful human beings though so I'm not really fussed

My DS (As much as an 8 month old can, I certainly get more kisses than everyone else 😊)
My DH
My parents
My sister
My aunt
My best friend and I say we love each other.

In addition I know my in laws or brother in law (and probably hos family) would be there if I needed them, as well as a wider circle of friends, if not in person then by phone

Writing that out makes me feel very lucky actually, I tend to have a few very good friends rather than acquaintances.

DD, DM

No man ever really has, I don't think :(