DPs job involves cash rather than having money in the bank. He keeps his money in a secure box upstairs and puts in the bank whenever. He is better off than me. I had £70 in 10 pound notes and my bank card in my jeans back pocket (silly I know) but both me and DP remember me pulling it out and saying I needed to put it in the bank towards my car finance. I only put things e.g car keys, money, reciepts etc in a drawer in a living room to be sorted out. Its not there. Ive emptied every drawer, pulled out all the sofas, cushions, checked underneath, checked the kitchen, checked ALL coat pockets and jeans, dressing gown, all drawers upstairs, underneath bed etc. Ive thoroughly checked my car whilst hoovering it and the money and card has vanished.
Now, I rang DP and asked if when he comes home he could count his money as he could have accidentally put the money with his. He got defensive about it saying he didnt have it, it was my problem but I can borrow £70 off him and give it him back when I find the money.
I'm so confused because hes never acted like this before, never took money off me but no ones been in the house besides us since Saturday when I got it, no kids or pets who could have had it. I really want to trust him but him straight away jumping on the defense has made me question it 
AIBU?
To think DPs took this money?
Aalaaya · 22/10/2018 11:30
Yes I never accused him of stealing. I asked him if he had mistaken it for his (as he deals with cash) but thought to myself hed took it.
Thanks for the kind messages 
he did take the money 
I'm sorry love. But, as a positive, you had instincts and trusted them even when he,and lots here told you you were nuts. You weren't, you were right.
Onwards and ever upwards. 
And all the people lecturing you on what you should have done or should have done can do one. Take care of yourself.
@Notacluewhatthisis
I would say go with your instincts. Your instincts are telling you he is a thief. Does he contribute equally to the house (rent, bills, food etc)?
This is what you said you clearly believe that the OP is right and he stole it. Dispute no evidence or back story.
Then you want to know if he pays bills. How will that prove anything? Or you just looking for more sorts to prove this gut must be a dick?
What's your agenda?
Telling someone to go with their instincts is not saying 'he must have taken it.'
And if he's the sort who shirks paying rent and bills then he's more likely to steal than someone who contributes equally to rent and bills.
What agenda would I have? 
Anyway, OP's instincts were right.
I haven't rtft but your firt post where he said you could borrow it off him, was enough for me.
You'd give your partner the money and not expect it back, as that what a partnership is.
If you don't/can't share money it's not a partnership, but two individuals.
To find out he's a thief too, well good job you found out now, so sorry 
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