Right, i really need to rant, but first i need to start from the beginning so its quite long.
I met my partner at work, i suppose i fell for his accent and charm (he's from Scotland and I'm from England) everything was cool but the relationship moved very quickly, i fell pregnant.When i was 5 months pregnant he decided he was home sick after staying in my home town for 7 years, so we upped and left and i moved 500 miles away to be with him and have our family together. During my first visit back home since leaving DP decides to go on a drug binge of coke etc whilst i was away, every night he was on the phone to me crying and wanting to come back to my home town. The weekend i came back to Scotland his son(who he had with another partner)was coming up to visit ( with ex)obviously he didn't have any money because he spent it on drugs, so i had to foot the bill out of my basic maternity money that i was receiving from the job centre.Bareing in mind we had pram and baby stuff to pay for. I didn't really do it for him, i did it for his son really. Any way there have been ups and down when he would carry on taking dugs on and off and also staying out late and getting totally drunk and leaving me by myself. Even the night before i was going into hospital to be induced he was supposed to give money to his sister to get the pram, but he went out and spent it on booze and had a mad hangover the next day. I told him if he did it again i would leave him.
Well he's done it so many times now I've lost count. I was so depressed i was so horrible to be around even taking things out on his family, not making them feel welcome etc. Well that was then i decided to change and try and get over the mistakes he had made. Unfortunately as events unfolded i became i nightmare, paranoid and possessive.
As things with his family got explosive he said he wanted to move back to my home town as we were much better there more opportunities and also he could play a bigger part in his eldest sons life. So we are supposed to be moving back in about a week. I've done most of the packing whilst he's been bevvying it up.
Last night he supposedly worked 2 hours overtime, i phoned him to see if he wanted dinner on at 11 pm he said yes and was on his way home. After worrying and phoning him all night he eventually rolls in at 5 am paralytic with two of his mates expecting me to let them in so they can crash. As if nothing had happened.
I was so angry at him because he's promised me so many time that he will change that i lashed out at him(quite annoyed at myself for that) and told him it was over, and sent them all to his sisters house(who is currently on holiday).
I'm tired of being a bloody doormat, i feel as though I'm a single parent having a one person relationship. It seems every time we talk about things they get better but when it come to putting things into practice he forgets it all and just thinks of himself. I've packed his bags and they are by the door, now everything he ever owned is in black bags. His mates are looking at me as if I'm a mad woman. I really feel let down by him.
Am i being unreasonable??
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For going mad when DP goes out from work and doesnt come in till 5am!!! AIBU?(very long soz)
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Nessie21 · 26/05/2007 13:22
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