...to sometimes give toddler DD the finger behind her back?

[Legbreak]

She definitely doesn’t see and it makes me feel better and is always at home, not out and about etc. My DSis thinks it’s appalling.

[kirta]

It may seem odd but I lean towards it would be better to scream infront of her than swear at her in secret

Yes. It does seem odd!

OP - definitely a strategy I have used on occasion. Obvs, being sure she cannot see me!

[Polishitbehindthedoor]

I've been doing it since DS developed an attitude problem. Which kicked in pretty early into his young little life. It's my only release. My coping mechanism. I'd go fucking insane otherwise.

I give him the middle finger while sticking my tongue out
I tell him to fuck off
I call him a little wanker
I mimic him in a whiney condascending voice

He never hears or see's it. He's no idea.

But I will point out that the kid is my life. He's the reason I get up in a morning. He brings me happiness at times when I feel incapable if it. He makes me so proud and I'm utterly besotted with him...

But he can be a proper little wanker. It's just a fact!

[SamHeughansLeftEyebrow]

I very nearly called 12 yo ds a dickhead yesterday. Very nearly. In fairness, he was totally being a dickhead

More self restraint than me. I have called my 12 yo DS a dickhead. In fairness, he was being a total dickhead.

I apologized later.

[colditz]

I thought everyone did this?

[hididdlyhoneighborino]

Or it suggests you have a sense of humour, instead of sucking it out of people.

[SamHeughansLeftEyebrow]

I do it too, never been caught yet. Many of my sentences also have pauses in the appropriate location for the gaps to be filled in with all the swears. My DS are now both old enough to know what the gaps mean.

[Wolfiefan]

You've just reminded me that when PFB was a toddler on high dose steroids and being a complete fucking nightmare that DH would mime drop kicking him. Complete with comedy face. Child never had a clue but it broke the tension and helped us deal with a difficult time. He's now a teen and appears undamaged.

[LankinMcElf]

Surely the question is more your feelings, the need to give the finger to a 2year old behind their back suggests suppressed anger, not healthy

[Chocolatecoffeeaddict]

I think it's disgusting to do that to your own innocent child. Whether they see or not it is a horrible thing to do and you should be ashamed of yourself.

[user1483390742]

I often 'flick the V's' (two fingers) at my kids when their backs are turned. Makes me feel so much better, but i am v v immature! 😂😂

[CookPassBabtridge]

I do this to DP.. if he's being a dick, it makes me feel good without confrontation Haven't done to kids but can't see the harm if no-one sees! Definitely said "fuck off" under my breath though. We are human.

[bonzo77]

Sometimes When my 2 yr old whines “I caaaaan’t” at me, I think “you cuuuunt”.

[Whisky2014]

As long as you wouldn't care if people were doing that to you.

[saltandvinegarcrisps1]

FFS. I give my daughter 'the Vicky ' every other day of the we3k. YANBUA X POST

[NotUmbongoUnchained]

I don’t know anyone in real life who DOESNT do this.
MN seem to treat kids like these little precious entities.
Sometimes kids are assholes. It’s life.

[Iwannasnack]

Yes you’re probably being unreasonable but toddlers can be very very unreasonable so no judgment here! definitely never done it myself

[Wolfiefan]

I wouldn't. Mine would turn round and I'd end up trying to pretend I was picking my nose!
Step out of the room and give it both fingers with vigour!

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

It may seem odd but I lean towards it would be better to scream infront of her than swear at her in secret, there’s an added “nastiness” in the latter that doesn’t sit right with me

[hididdlyhoneighborino]

Nah I do too sometimes, but not often as I have a 5 and 3yo that might be watching. My 2yo is a right nobhead sometimes.

[YummySushi]

I think that’s quite horrible.. Would u like ur toddler doing that behind ur back when they’re adults and ur calling them to ask for something ?

Guess not.

I find a punching bag is a better form of release

[ProjectGainsborough]

I’m judging you terribly.

Not really. Today I ran into the kitchen to escape my squabbling kids and then realised the neighbours could probably see me giving a brick wall the Vs.

[acornsandnuts]

I managed to withhold it until they turned 14.7. It’s a daily occurrence now.

[elfycat]

I mutter 'For Fuck's sake' before yelling in a mild, light tone 'What is it dear?' to the 300 yells per day of 'MuuuuuUUUUUUuuuuummmMMMMmmmmmmmmmmm!'

I don't care who's in the room to hear my mutter; they will be over 18.

To my DDs' faces I will use extreme sarcasm and over-the-top threats. My favourite from their 3-5 age obstructive behaviour was 'I'll tie you upside down from a branch and whip you with brambles.' Some people looked aghast, but my DDs would grin and say 'No you won't' but behave 1% better than before.

It's better to release your frustrations in little acts than end up at the end of your tether and about to snap. Better for you and better for them. Carry on... as you were... etc...

[IHaveBrilloHair]

Ha, I've been doing this for almost 17 years.
It's fine, she doesn't kniw and you feel better.