To dress my son in girls clothes

[SleepingStandingUp]

By which I mean things like leggings and tops that have shimmer and shine, mlp, the girls off paw patrol etc rather than dresses.

Ds is 2, loves pink and glittery and ask the above characters but people act like its child abuse.

Presumably no one would care if s 3yo DD wanted to wear Thomas the Tank Engine

[Ohforfoxsakereturns]

It’s not that big a deal. If you let him choose his clothes, let him chose what he wants.

You’ll get dickheads making comments. Shrug it off.

DS1 always headed for Aurora princess dress in the dressing up box, carried his pink lunch box. One of his mates asked if I could speak to his mum so he could have one.

Meh to it all. DS1 is now as blokey as blokes get - but I do not think it is related in any way whatsoever. Let him make his choices. If anyone has anything to say about it, tell your DS he makes his choices and they make theirs. No biggie.

[alpineibex]

Outy

I own not a single shirt.

[YerAuntFanny]

Have they changed the name of Fireman Sam then? DD is an avid fan and I'm pretty sure that was his name the last time we watched

[Bythebeach]

Gendered clothing is just a groundless societal norm with no basis in 'right' or 'wrong'. Your son is perfectly entitled to wear any clothes pink/sequinned/frilly as is any boy or girl......it is just a shame that society is still a backward enough to look askance at a boy in pink/in a dress ...
My youngest (of 3 boys) loves pink and fairy wings and glitter and he wears them whenever he wants to. Anyone who comments negatively gets pretty short shrift from me and his two big brothers!

[lornathewizzard]

@Charolais surely the idea is to raise kids who don't mock other kids

The sooner we can get rid of this bullshit gender stereotype nonsense the better. Let kids be kids

[YerAuntFanny]

Charolaid I'd say my job is more to raise a child who will not mock others than one who will not be mocked.

My DS has been mocked and bullied throughout his school life because he doesn't fit neatly into a little box and does stuff that others may consider weird.

This isn't because I failed him or because of anything in particular, it's because those kids have issues of some sort that have stopped them being tolerant of others.

Victim blaming at its best there!

[YerAuntFanny]

*Charolais, I'm not liking auto-correct today!

[lornathewizzard]

Great minds think alike @YerAuntFanny

[FallenAngel89]

My DD has worn "boy clothes" for as long as I can remember. It's not always easy to get Star Wars or Mine craft clothes for girls. She still wears what she wants and she's nearly 9 Oh and my DS has a dolls pram and a baby, he's 4 x

[Thingiebob]

Assassinated Society is not currently gender critical. It is very much with the notion that children as young as two can signal their desired gender through their clothing choices. See the charity Mermaids for this hokum.

Personally I would have dressed my boy in the pink leggings he wants along with the Thomas boots and whatever else he wants. As long it is warm and comfortable, I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks or does. He often used to have a hair clip in his fringe hair, in between haircuts.

He started school with a purple shiny rucksack, but after a few weeks figured out that none of the other boys had bags like this so we changed it to a less conspicuous bag!

They find out soon enough what is and isn't acceptable. Judging from the answers on this thread, I presume it's all your children ripping the piss out of a child who is the wrong sex to like unicorns or anything sparkly. Get over yourselves. This is why we are all in this 'male/female' brain shitshow in the first place.

[mirime]

At 2, really? At 2 none of mine gave a hoot what they were wearing.

DS did. He loved wearing his Thomas t-shirts and would refuse to wear some things. Bought him a lovely jumper from Fat Face in the sale, he refused point blank to wear it for a week then I pointed out how it was just like one of DH's jumpers and suddenly it was acceptable.

[Socksey]

My DS, now 9, loved Peppa etc and when he was 4 I teamed up his pink t-shirt with navy chinos and cardi.... he looked very smart.... I just avoided lace and frills and had no issues.. ..

[AssassinatedBeauty]

@Thingiebob I'm not under the illusion that society is gender critical, it's quite obviously not. But it won't ever be if people don't start to ignore the ridiculous sex-based "rules" about what is acceptable for things like clothes. That's why I said that, for me at least, it's nothing to do with transgenderism. In fact it's the opposite. Clothing signifies nothing at all about your sex.

[Steeley113]

I don’t have an issue with boys wearing ‘girls’ clothes or the opposite. However I do get annoyed when people say I shouldn’t dress my daughter up in pink or have a pink pram. While it’s my choice, she can wear what I want her to wear! When she starts to make decisions then of course I’ll let her but once she’s born it’s frilly dresses and pink until she tells me otherwise.

[Atticusss]

I believe the reason we have such gender confusion in teens and adults is because people are expected to like clothes depending on wether they have a penis or vagina. How bloody ridiculous.

I dress my boy in all sorts of clothes, including pink/floral prints leggings and tights. Whatever suits him/is practical/I like. When he is old enough to show a preference he can choose himself what he wears, but while he is too young I will let him know that all choices are good and ok. Including thinks not usually offered to boys. That is how I did it with my girls too.

[fantasmasgoria1]

In a charity shop the other day a woman would not allow her child to have a toy iron. She said to him that is for girls! I couldn’t believe my ears! My son had kitchen sets, my dd never had dolls or wore pink! You do what’s right for your son, if he wants that stuff then fair enough! I allowed my children to play with what they wanted!

[SleepingStandingUp]

Oh this is the offending material btw.

[OutyMcOutface]

I'm not really getting this whole there are people out there who don't wear shirts. I'm not even working at the moment and I am still wearing shirts, button down dresses, stuff that requires ironing in general. I don't think I know a single person (well enough to be familiar with their sartorial habits) who doesn't own a shirt. Even my father who is the most ridiculously sports casual guy in the world still has shirts. I mean do people just not go to funerals? I can just about understand a woman who never has never worked in an actual work place/works asa personal trainer/sometjingvelse hyper specific like that not owning one, although casual shirts are so popular I find it dubious. But surely every man has shirts. Even the personal trainers.

[toomuchtooold]

I've had this if I dare to put peppa pig clothes on my son (he loves her) I get "oh how could you" "he's not a girl!

Yeah he's not a pig either

Sorry, I just came on here to say that. I also support your right to dress your kid in whatever he likes OP

[alpineibex]

I wouldn't wear a shirt to a funeral. I would wear a dress or a normal top and skirt. There's no need for a shirt for work either... a nice, smart blouse is fine. I hate shirts, I've never bought one.

[alpineibex]

Also, no buttons on my dresses. The only buttons I have are on my jeans/trousers/coat.

[YerAuntFanny]

Outy if I wore a shirt to work I'd get laughed at not to mention how impractical it would be! :o

I'm a very casual person so I tend to live in jeans/t-shirts, leggings/tunics or jeggings and tops and funerals, job interviews, graduation ceremonies etc I wear my one and only a dress. There is literally no situation in my life that calls for a shirt or a blouse.

DH wouldn't be able to wear a shirt to work either, yes he owns 1 (the 1 he bought for our wedding) but I think he's worn it three times maybe, infact I think those 2 times are the only ones I've known him to wear it in the 17 years we've been together!

[whyayepetal]

OP - please dress your DS in whatever he likes that you feel is age/weather appropriate. Do this with confidence, and without drama. Give zero figs for anyone who feels they should judge. Do this with confidence and without drama too. Job done - happy child and happy mum.

[KalaLaka]

I'm not really getting this whole there are people out there who don't wear shirts.

I have had proper jobs and have no shirts. This is because they need ironing, and I don't do any.

[rabbit12345]

My 5yo DS loves all things princess ( pink glitter and nail varnish) I am sick and tired of hearing that I will turn him gay. Quite frankly I couldn’t care less if he is and I don’t believe for one second that letting him choose what colour top to wear is going to be the deciding factor in his sexuality.

I promote acceptance and communication with my children so even if the outside world is judging, they will have come from a stable enough background to be self assured and know what opinions count.

It is only a big issue if it is allowed to be.