To dress my son in girls clothes

[SleepingStandingUp]

By which I mean things like leggings and tops that have shimmer and shine, mlp, the girls off paw patrol etc rather than dresses.

Ds is 2, loves pink and glittery and ask the above characters but people act like its child abuse.

Presumably no one would care if s 3yo DD wanted to wear Thomas the Tank Engine

[Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar]

It's fine if you want to; but I don't believe a pre verbal two year old gives much of a toss either way.

[ReanimatedSGB]

Well, because we live in a woman-hating culture, a little girl wanting 'boy' things is rather cute, she's aspiring to be like her 'betters' (though there comes a point when she is shamed into stopping this behaviour and 'knowing her place') - but a little boy wanting 'girl' things is outrageous - he's going to make himself look inferior and lose status because yuk, femaleness!

That's what stupid people think. Let your DS have whatever he wants and be whoever he is. I did with mine (who is 13 now and shrugs off comments about his long flowing hair.)

[phoolani]

DS is 8 and if left to choose his own clothes will choose from the girls’ section 90% of the time. It’s not only that he loves sequins and sparkly stuff, he’s also draw to bright, bright colours, so like the sunshine yellow jeans rather than the mustard yellow in the boys’ section. Weirdly (or not?) he has never had a single comment (other than compliments) on his clothes.

[NoqontroI]

I think they should wear what they want as long as it's suitable for the weather.

[Graphista]

Absolutely fine.

Dd once went to nursery in a firemans outfit for several days - and woe betide anyone that called her a "fire woman" or "fire officer"

Nephew carried one of his mums old handbags (silver he loved anything shiny at that point) everywhere for about a month when he was 3. Admittedly it was filled with Lego and toy cars but still...

Sisters now ex was an arse about it!

Nephew now 14 and a total smelly football loving, grumpy grunting delight

[IsThisADream]

Mine has pink tights (much to DH's disgust 😂) but I suppose he only wears them under trousers for extra warmth - why don't they make tights for buys as well as girls?

I don't think it matters the colour, it's the characters they are interested in. Go for it. Ignore the looks. 😊

[CaoNiMa]

Just tell them he's trans. Job's a good 'un.

[IsThisADream]

@CaoNiMa

[FingersCrossedHard]

You'll barely hear a word against in on mn - everyone will claim they did it, it was fine, clothes are clothes, pink and sparkles can be for boys too.

In rl, barely anyone would do this. You and your son will look weird and most people will judge the fuck out of you.

Mn is not representative of the 'real world' on issues like this.

[SwarmOfCats]

They’re just clothes! At 2 both of my boys were stealing their older sister’s accessories; they’re just fine. My now 9yr old son thieves his sister’s jogging bottoms because he finds them comfortable and gives not a single hoot that they’re for ‘girls’. My daughter (11) often checks out the ‘boys’ sections in clothing stores because she prefers the fit of their tops. None of them have ever had any problems.

[RingFence]

Gendered clothing is outdated. Let him wear pink and sequins if he wants to. I see lots of men wearing pink these days.

Actually I cringe when I see small children dressed all in pink or all in blue, or mums with a big pink or blue pram: why advertise your child's gender?

My DD wears all different colours, some from the boys section but most unisex. I hate the way many girls clothes are so gendered and twee- she doesn't need frills on her legging hems, gathered elastic on her tshirt sleeves or an ugly Peter Pan collar to look feminine! She's a toddler!

I would dress a boy in leggings and sweaters too. Leggings are very popular for boys now, thanks to the sudden popularity of everything Scandi!

[lookingforthecorkscrew]

Clothes. You're dressing your son in clothes.

[OuchBollocks]

Fyi sadly some people do care very much about a 3yo girl in Thomas tshirts

[SleepingStandingUp]

IsThisADream Lidl! We got lovely navy blue cars on the knees boy tights from there, and also Sainsburys did footless socks

[HuskyMcClusky]

Fyi sadly some people do care very much about a 3yo girl in Thomas tshirts

What?! Like who?

[SleepingStandingUp]

You and your son will look weird and most people will judge the fuck out of you
And yet no one would bat an eyelid if my friends daughter wore navy trousers and a top covered in trucks

[FingersCrossedHard]

Probably not Sleeping...but there you go.

[MotherWol]

In rl, barely anyone would do this. You and your son will look weird and most people will judge the fuck out of you.

Explain to me why it's weird. What do you think is going to happen to a boy if he wears "girl's" clothes?

[noeffingidea]

One of my sons loved pink clothes, glitter, etc. I allowed him to wear them indoors, but not outdoors. In those days (this was a while ago) he would have been picked on and bullied. Nowadays I wouldn't allow him to in case some right on teacher (or anyone else) tried telling him he was really a girl.

[OuchBollocks]

My DM and MIL are both horrified that I dress my thomas-loving DD 'like a boy', and I have had comments and Looks from other people.

[WiggyPig]

Sleeping that's because a girl in boys' clothes is perceived as upgrading to masculinity whereas a boy in girls' clothes is downgrading to femininity. If femininity wasn't regarded as inferior it wouldn't be an issue.

Toddlers are like magpies, let them have their glittery shiny goodies while they're young enough to enjoy it!

[welcomehome]

FIL called DH "gay" because he was wearing a pink Polo shirt. He said it just as I brought DS, about 9 months, into the room wearing the baby version of the same shirt. FIL saw him and said "And you're going to turn him as well".

(Yes they are cut off from me now.)

OP, dress your DS however he likes. Peer pressure will put restrictions on him soon enough unfortunately.

[Hoppinggreen]

Clothes are gender neutral, unless they are for grown ups and have adaptations to accommodate boobs and penises so dress him how he wants.
Some people don’t take this view though so be prepared for negative remarks/funny looks when he dresses in clothes considered traditionally female. Shouldn’t happen but probably will

[user1495997773]

My 3 yo DD likes and wears Thomas... just let him wear what he wants and what's practical!

[YerAuntFanny]

@HuskyMcClusky my daughter is 4 and we've had several comments about her wearing a Spiderman costume and Dinosaur pyjamas.

One was made by the cashier in the supermarket who told a very excited DD spending her birthday money that a Spidergirl dress would probably fit much better and the other by a parent at nursery pyjama party having to console her sobbing DS because he was wearing the same PJ's as a girl, "but don't worry they were in the boys bit, X's Mummy must've got mixed up", err no X wanted the dinosaur dude pyjamas. End of 🙄