To not know what the fuck I’m doing??

[Housequeen101]

I know iabu but posting here as more traffic!

My little girl is 8 days old, and when we go to bed at 11ish she won’t settle upstairs, last night/ this morning, she was up fussing and crying until 2.30am, I didn’t want her to wake my other dc so I took her downstairs and she slept on me, I’m worried that if I do this too much she won’t sleep any other way?!? I breast feed too but that doesn’t sooth or settle her, we brought a mobile with gentle music and lights, that doesn’t work, tried a dummy that doesn’t work neither does burping or sshhing, Please any advice?

Our other Dc was an angel sleeper so never had this before. Help mums!

She did have mild jaundice but when we were discharged Saturday they said it was fine

Did they do blood tests to check the jaundice ? My DD was slightly yellow at 5 days old, MW said not to worry, didn't look too bad but had to do blood test anyway (standard policy for unit). She ended up in hospital having phototherapy as levels were high. Can't always tell just by colour.

I think you were just incredibly lucky first time around! Sounds like perfectly normal behaviour for a days old baby - they have no idea about day and night yet, and need frequent feeding. Google the fourth trimester, it makes loads of sense and really helped me understand what was going on in the first few months.

And get a good sling, like a stretchy wrap. That and safe co-sleeping will save your sanity.

I was in hospital about 5 days with my 2nd-she spent most of the nights sleeping on me-was the only way to keep her quiet!

for you OP, there is nothing like a broekn night's sleep to make you feel like a zombie! Definitely look into safe co-sleeping eg in a bed, not on a sofa.

Also, what helped me was to think about why my baby was like this - from an evolutionary point of view it makes total sense that a baby will sleep quite happily on a person, but raise merry hell if you dare to place them down in a cot - for all they know they've just been left outside a cave, vulnerable to sabre-toothed tigers... no wonder they cry, it's self-preservation! (Doesn't make it any easier though...)

I used to put a warm hot water bottle in the cot while I was feeding then remove it before putting DD1 back in - that way it was warm to put her down on the cot sheet, so she wouldn't wake at the sudden change in temperature between me and the cot.
At that age she could be going through a growth spurt too - mine all fed constantly for a few days at a week - 10 days ish - exhausting, but it will improve. Good luck, well done, and hope you get some rest soon!

This is how I ended up co-sleeping and dh sleeping downstairs.

Yes dd1 was a preemie and when she got home slept like an angel, dd2 on the other hand was and still is (at 2.10) a co-sleeper as it's the only way on earth anyone in the house world was going to get any sleep. We had a nexttome crib and tried using things with my scent but in the end Co sleeping was our answer.