Taking baby to work

[creameyespinklips]

My job requires me to work one evening and ever other weekend. There's no way around this.

It involves calling on vulnerable people. Most of them are 15 min calls, they don't need much. A cup of tea and medication usually.

My marriage has been awful lately, I'm feeling like i can't possibly stay. The problem is money. I am not a high earner anyway and I can't afford to give up my job.

Since I can't get childcare for evenings and weekends wibu to take my baby with me in my car and leave her for short periods as I make my calls?

[Animation86]

I doubt your employee is insured for having children on the job

And no I wouldn’t leave my baby in a car in this weather never mind any weather

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

It is not hard getting people to have your kids if you pay them.

If you are on a low wage you would get a decent amount of your childcare paid for you.
Yes they charge more for antisocial hours but you can still include that in with childcare elements of both tax credits and UC

[creameyespinklips]

Needs it's not always that simple. And even if all my child care was paid for it still have to find somebody. Anyway it is pointless talking about it I am not in a position to leave.

[hibbledobble]

Pairing up with another parent and doing a reciprocal childcare arrangement is probably the best suggestion here.

Leaving the baby in the car isn't a viable option, and I'm sure you know that op.

[LIZS]

If you are worried about him having unsupervised access how do you work childcare now?

[creameyespinklips]

I'm not currently working lizs.

[Nicknacky]

But in your op to say you work one night a week and every other weekend?

[Twitchingdog]

Do you someone who sit in car with you or just baby sitter than could put baby to bed a student student or fellow care worker

[creameyespinklips]

Yes I am currently on Maternity leave. This is what the job requires and will require if I go back.not sure yet. Don't have anyone to help. Thanks.

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

I mean this as kindly as I can.

You are saying you want to leave him and are attempting to work out if it’s possible, you indicated it would be better if you had your job.

People are talking to you about the way that the vast majority of lone parents (and joint parents) retain their jobs with kids. That being childcare
Nursery is not an option due to shifts but a registered nanny or childminder is. If you live in an area where people don’t use nannies then your likely to find one much cheaper than an area where they are high demand, your also likely to find a childminder who does antisocial hours and over nights.
Finding someone is not going to be the huge problem you think it is, you have one child that’s quite possibly the easiest childcare situation to solve I can even imagine. I’m a lone parent who currently has 6 kids in childcare it is doable.

However you say about unsupervised contact, so what’s the real issue?
Nobody knows who you are you have nothing to lose by posting about it and could potentially gain a lot of really useful information.

[creameyespinklips]

I can't. Last time I posted people got very upset and mumsnet took down the thread. We had a bad night last night this morning I felt like I couldn't stay and panicked thinking how we could survive but it was a knee jerk reaction.

[endehors]

You must know really that this wouldn't be a good idea. That's kindly meant.

[creameyespinklips]

Yes, I do. Like I say I posted this morning upset and panicky.

[SquirrelPlantedBeech]

Why was your thread deleted?

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

Fair enough.

Was it the standard this has turned into a bun fight reason?

[creameyespinklips]

It upset people although I put a warning in the title so mumsnet felt best to come down. Which is fine. I understand that.

[LIZS]

Have a longer term plan , so even if you can't leave now you can research and start to formulate a strategy to use should you need to do so. Could you go back to work and then review the situation once you feel more settled and confident. Presumably your baby is still little but networking while you are on ml may open up different opportunites for childcare later on.