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AIBU?

To wish the boob police would just fuck off!

67 replies

KatnissMellark · 05/12/2017 12:23

Breastfeeding my nine month old. Originally had a number of issues (latch problems and allergies) but these are sorted now and it's easy and convenient despite having had to give up a couple of foods. Just in the last few days have had the following comments:

'Why don't you wean him for Xmas, no need to be a martyr, then you can eat what you want'- err no, it would be a total faff to get him accepting formula for a matter of months then wean to an alternative milk after a year, then try to introduce cow's milk if he can tolerate it.

'Breastfeeding past 6 months is just for the mother'- oh really? Why don't you tell him that?!

'What really annoys me is women who don't try to breastfeed, it's just lazy'- you are an arse! Just because we both breastfeed does not mean I'm in your little formula hating gang, nobber.

Why can't people just mind their own business!!?

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Lweji · 05/12/2017 17:22

Liskee · 05/12/2017 17:04

People are so weird. Why don’t they just keep their opinions to themselves?!

Just work away, suit yourself and never worry about the dickheads.

IamPickleRick · 05/12/2017 16:14

Kraggle - I know but I just get the guilts. Logically I know it's probably totally fine but we cosleep as well, so I'd just worry too much about falling asleep too heavily. Happy to wait till the last one is off the boob! Next Christmas probably 😂

Queeniebed · 05/12/2017 15:45

God - there are so many ignorant and nosey people out there! Well done for getting past those first bumps and good for you for going for so long :) Feel free to be rude right back to them

Dustbunny1900 · 05/12/2017 15:23

Just for the mother?? My doctor told me in no uncertain terms that baby needs breast milk or formula the first 12 months of life. What ignorant shitheads. I'm sorry, how are they thinking you selfishly get a kick out of being bit, pinched, dealing with clogged ducts and pumping, etc ? I mean I love feeding my babies but it's certainly not just for my own entertainment

I'm personally sick of dealing with the disgusted comments while I pump at work, and the strange sexualized comments.

BulletFox · 05/12/2017 15:13

I misinterpreted the title and wondered who on earth the boob police were. Like some government function who marched around saying 'no, your left one doesn't look up to scratch. Cut it off NOOOOW for being offensive under the laws of boob crimes'.

But yeah OP, people should mind their business.

Canklesofglitter · 05/12/2017 15:02

What really annoys me is women who don't try to breastfeed, it's just lazy'- you are an arse! Just because we both breastfeed does not mean I'm in your little formula hating gang, nobber.

Yes! This!

I have no intentions of judging anyone else's parenting choices unless is downright negligent.

Ohyesiam · 05/12/2017 15:02

I fed my dd till she was 2.5, and my son to he was 1, when he rejected it.
Nobody ever said a word to me about it.
I must have a " fuck right off " resting face. Practice in the mirror op, you can do it!

midnightmisssuki · 05/12/2017 14:45

i plan to feed my son till hes over 2 - my colleagues asked me to wean him so i can go on a work trip with them this week - i asked them if they thought my breasts we just taps that i turn off and on when i want?! Bizarre people!

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 05/12/2017 14:37

Ds had a dairy allergy and I breastfed him until he was over 2 - so you have my sympathies and recommendation for Starbucks coconut milk caramel lattes!

I started just telling people that they could take charge of the weaning process if they wanted. I said I would give them some prescription, non-dairy formula (which ds wouldn't touch) and a bottle (which ds couldn't drink from) and leave them for the weekend. Funnily enough they sodded off...

We used alternative milk in cooking but he didn't drink it. We just reintroduced cow's milk when he was 2 - fortunately successfully!

deptfordgirl · 05/12/2017 14:31

I breastfed for 15 months and never got negative comments so it's not everywhere.

RebeccaBunch · 05/12/2017 14:29

My DD was weaned 5 years ago - I STILL get the had down the top.

badabing36 · 05/12/2017 14:17

Allthetuppences I'm in the same position. Thought I'd cracked it and weaned him but then he had the most gigantic tantrum at 4am one morning and I had to go back to breastfeeding again. No-one knows I'm still doing it apart from my partner and my mum, cause he only feeds at nap and bed time now. The comments and looks I got when people asked me if I was still breastfeeding were crazy. I just started lying. The hand constantly down my top is really irritating though.

Op I think one of the most irritating things about motherhood is having to nodd and smile at strangers who give you their unsolicited crazy opinions.

RestingGrinchFace · 05/12/2017 14:16

What I hate most is the well meaning "You gave to wean him so that you can sleep."
No shit childless person, of course I never thought of sonething so obvious. Weaning is so easy after all right, you just both cry and go through agony for a couple of weeks, no biggie

RebeccaBunch · 05/12/2017 14:16

I had a special look for these idiots. It conveyed "why the fuck do you think my boobs have got anything to do with your sorry arse?" perfectly.

Kraggle · 05/12/2017 14:16

PickleRick there’s no reason you can’t have a drink if you want one whilst breastfeeding.

From the NHS website:

There's some evidence that regularly drinking more than two units of alcohol a day while breastfeeding may affect your baby's development. But an occasional drink is unlikely to harm your breastfed baby. It's recommended that breastfeeding mothers have no more than one or two units of alcohol once or twice a week.

RhiannonOHara · 05/12/2017 14:13

Good, Blue.

I think being polite is a bit overrated.

I am probably just getting old and prickly. I like it

FizzyWaterAndElderflower · 05/12/2017 14:12

There seems to be a section of people who can't fathom that different people (and babies) are different.

Hence recent conversations I've had with MIL over why anyone would want more than one bathroom in a house, or with my Dad over why I would buy an automatic car when I have a manual license, and 100 other things with 100 other people.

Whoever says breastfeeding older babies is just for the mother has clearly never fed a baby over 6 months

And definitely this - the day when they decide to get cheeky and give you a nip, and the habit that my oldest still has at 7, of if he's very tired or upset, the hand sneaks up and just does down/up my shirt to rest between my cleavage for comfort.

TriJo · 05/12/2017 14:07

Whoever says breastfeeding older babies is just for the mother has clearly never fed a baby over 6 months. Biting, grabbing, scratching, fingers reaching for nose and mouth... that certainly isn't for my benefit!

Judashascomeintosomemoney · 05/12/2017 14:04

Breastfeeding past 6 months is just for the mother
Wow, people really say this? I breastfed both my DDs, in reducing frequency, for about 12 mths, and I honestly never had anyone comment at all ever, even when I was breastfeeding in restaurants etc in public. BUT that was 12-13 years ago. Have people just got far more bloody nosy in the last few years?

sinceyouask · 05/12/2017 14:04

Its's annoying as fuck.
I fed ds1 to 2, ds2 to 2.5 and have just force weaned ds3 at 3. You'd think I'd done it purely to upset some people, going by their weird overreaction to it.

BluePlasticBuddha · 05/12/2017 14:02

Rhiannon no,I have always been the 'be polite and defend myself nicely' self justification Queen!

Not any more. The turning point came when a friend of my mother's called me 'disgusting' for not taking the DCs away for overseas holidays several times a year.(There is a long, boring story, but that is the essenceof the conversation). I defended myself and then stopped mid-way and thought; 'Ah.Just fuck off'. I did not say it.But from that point on I decided that I was not going to justify myself to anyone ever again.

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Trinity66 · 05/12/2017 14:02

poooooooop

Yeah jeez, you can't win, she was embarrassed to get the bottle out and at the same time you have people complaining about how women who breast feed in cafes are exhibitionists etc f/

Allthetuppences · 05/12/2017 14:01

And beforr i get jumped on. I'm talking rippd clothes and deep scratches to my chest weekly. It's upsetting.

IamPickleRick · 05/12/2017 14:01

I'd love to wean for Christmas. I've not had an alcoholic drink since 2015! (Pregnant or breastfeeding) Baby doesn't seem so keen on weaning though so here we are!

Point 3 is annoying as well. IBF but I've mix fed as well so I'm not in any "gang" as such. Bit of both, it's fine. It really is fuck all to do with anyone else.

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