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AIBU?

To wonder why people assume posters are men when

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poolCam · 29/11/2017 01:35

they don't like what they post.

There was a thread yesterday where a poster criticised the readability of another. Admittedly, the former was being goady but I do wonder why they immediately became a man in the eyes of others on the thread.

Does it show that there is in fact deep-seated sexism in both sexes?

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Datun · 03/12/2017 08:30

Is that question to me, Skarossinkplunger?

Skarossinkplunger · 03/12/2017 07:56

Why does it matter?

Datun · 02/12/2017 18:12

Its harder on AIBU I think. But sometimes its very clear that posters are male.

Seeing it sooo often on FWR, you develop a sixth sense.

It’s not infallible. But it’s pretty good.

TheGoalIsToStayOutOfTheHole · 02/12/2017 17:32

It’s a piece of piss telling if someone is male on the feminist boards.

I would agree with this. Though sometimes its not totally clear from the OP, but they usually reveal themselves within a couple of posts. Usually the only men that visit the feminist boards are the MRA types though, which is why its so painfully obvious. Berating feminists for caring about female people and not doing enough for men..usually.

Its harder on AIBU I think. But sometimes its very clear that posters are male.

DadDadDad · 02/12/2017 14:52

Yes, your last three posts are indeed all about me, so I appreciate you have a problem.

You clearly don't think I should respond to the things you say about me, so I'll stop, as I am sure we are both boring everyone else on this thread (if there's anyone left).

HerSymphonyAndSong · 02/12/2017 14:41

Gosh it is all about you isn’t it

DadDadDad · 02/12/2017 12:18

I wasn’t saying that those are the only two types of male poster on MN, just that those two are very easy to spot as men

I got that distinction, but on another thread, a poster essentially told me that just having a username that shows I am a dad is unnecessarily drawing attention to my being a man. So, I feel like some might group me with the men you are talking about.

So utterly desperate to be reassured that you are one of those men who fall into the category of NAMALT

I'm not going to argue about that, but that simply is not true. (The first part of this post was certainly not written in a state of utter desperation).

HerSymphonyAndSong · 02/12/2017 12:00

and no, it wasn’t because you are a man, but because of your posting style and sudden domination of a series of threads that I had been on and enjoying for a long time. That behaviour may have been because you are a man, or it may just be you, but either way it hardly matters now, I just stopped following them

HerSymphonyAndSong · 02/12/2017 11:53

So utterly desperate to be reassured that you are one of those men who fall into the category of NAMALT

I am afraid that I left a long-running thread after you began to dominate it and it was no longer interesting to me

HerSymphonyAndSong · 02/12/2017 11:51

DadDadDad

Read my post again

I wasn’t saying that those are the only two types of male poster on MN, just that those two are very easy to spot as men

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 02/12/2017 11:09

Because lately a growing number of the MN population hates men, and must throw the worst insult they can think at anyone who disagrees with them

12 million members of mumsnet

I doubt even if there are a percentage that 'hate men' I doubt its a big one

DadDadDad · 02/12/2017 10:00

or

(3) have been on MN a while, read many threads with interest but not felt the need to post, but have sometimes posted where they feel they have something to contribute (where being a man may occasionally be relevant, but generally no-one makes any reference to gender), and don't think it does require enormous effort to be a decent human being, and on those terms, can enjoy being on a site "for parents" as much as anyone else, without looking for any special recognition.

HerSymphonyAndSong · 02/12/2017 09:36

Those calculators don’t really work

What is easy to tell, from posting style, are those men who

(1) are new to MN and can’t handle women disagreeing with, ignoring, or dismissing their opinion

(2) have been on MN a while, feel like they have done their time with posting sensitively and with consideration for the female-dominated community, and now feel that they are due some —cookies— recognition for their enormous effort at being a decent human being

VioletHaze · 02/12/2017 09:02

Well, there are several online calculators like this which claim some level of accuracy beyond a 50% guess, but often the sheer sense of entitlement gives it away.

I just tried that calculator. Apparently based on my communication style I'm a man, which may be a shock to DH

BertrandRussell · 02/12/2017 08:27

"Because lately a growing number of the MN population hates men, and must throw the worst insult they can think at anyone who disagrees with them."

How very dare you say that I hate men, you.....you.....you... man you!

Skarossinkplunger · 02/12/2017 08:12

Because lately a growing number of the MN population hates men, and must throw the worst insult they can think at anyone who disagrees with them.

MaximaDeWit · 02/12/2017 02:56

I've literally never seen this happen, OP.

Can you link to some threads so I can see what you mean?

BitOfFun · 02/12/2017 02:16

The 2013 MN census said there was a 16% male cohort. Given that the men on here tend to be very vocal and intransigent, or at least defensive of their entitlement to post, rather than more casual posters who just "dip in" from time to time, I'd say that they are probably over-represented in that voluntary survey.

Mumsnet is still very much a predominantly female space.

Whoyagonna · 30/11/2017 23:37

Yes, mostly women here.

Beachcomber · 29/11/2017 20:12

MN is inhabited by women.

poolCam · 29/11/2017 19:18

Beachcomber

First when I was 15. I think 2 in the 60s.

I don't consider it a female space simply because I have no idea who else is posting. I'm not sure if I'm confusing the terminology. I'd call something a female space when I know it's inhabited by women.

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Weebo · 29/11/2017 18:48

Well MN is a female space. That's just a fact and I doubt even the (non-goady) men who post here would disagree.

How many threads are started by men here wanting a women's perspective? That's because it's a female space.

And there's nothing wrong with that.

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Beachcomber · 29/11/2017 18:47

So you were marching in the 60s at age 5 to 10?

And you don't think MN is a female space?

Ta1kinPeace · 29/11/2017 18:42

"I was basing it on UK stats"
Still does not make it true .....
Women .... are more likely to work in a relevant post-graduate position
Link please
Women ..... They out-earn men
Funny then that every stat seems to show the opposite IN THE UK

You are talking bilge. Regardless of what sex you are.

poolCam · 29/11/2017 18:42

beach

Because I don't see a public forum as a female space. I value it but not for it's single-sex-ness.

I was born in '55. I think the world has changed a lot in my lifetime and almost exclusively for the better.

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