To be fed up with people confusing dd for a boy?

[Mumsiemummy1]

Fairly light hearted and aimed more at the clothes she is wearing than just general mistakes which are completely innocent.

I have never really liked dressing DD (9months) in pink, I don't really wear pink myself, and all of her newborn stuff was pink so i got very bored of it. She now wears lots of colours, including blue, black, green, red...all girls clothes just not pink.

Whenever we are out people talk to her as a boy, "hi little man", "you're a good little boy" etc

I just find it really frustrating that I have to dress her in pink for people to call her a girl.

Anyone else share this frustration.

[totallystumped]

I was often told I had two lovely girls. I don't. I have one of each. This would happen even when one was in pink and the other in blue. DD had a bit of a pink, sparkly phase for a while,

DS Still gets mistaken for a girl on occasion - he's sixteen now, a bit overweight and his facial hair is still very fine. He also wears his hair on the long side.

During the Summer we were approached by a chugger while out shopping "Hello ladies..." As we walked past "you're getting a hair cut" "I know"

Buying his prom jacket, fellow shipper "That looks nice on you, even though it's a mans jacket"

[WhatwouldAryado]

My daughter's were called boys when in dresses (first daughter quite angular face very little childish roundness maybe? 2nd daughter - no idea) and my son gets called a girl lots (thin curly hair I think is why but hair is pretty much gender free!).
People seem to randomly guess. It actually doesn't matter. Yes there are studies to show people react differently to babies depending on if they think they are male or female BUT. In the real day to day world. Those random people are not in your child's life. The people who stick around and care will love your child for their personality.

[Mamabear4180]

DD 16 months has very little hair yet so unless she's in pink she is a boy according to most people. It really doesn't bother me at all. My eldest DD was once in a pink dress in a pink buggy and 2 elderly ladies thought she was a lovely boy.

I don't know why this kind of thing bothers anyone?

[Justanothernameonthepage]

DD mainly wears the same clothes DS had. Often when wearing identical outfits, he'd be referred to as 'her' while she is mistaken for a boy. They both look very alike so am guessing I just remember the people who get it wrong more than the ones who don't.

[Ausparent]

At our local Spar there is someone working behind the meat counter and I still genuinely don't know whether it is a man or a woman -they are about 20. It is really frustrating as I don't want to offend them and can't ask. Don't be too hard on people getting it wrong

[user1468353179]

I took my son and daughter to see Father Christmas. DD, almost two at the time, cried for days because he said "hello boys" and she thought she was getting boys toys for Christmas.

[WaxOnFeckOff]

Thank you for your kindness Iamagreyhound He'll be fine - he just needs to get his confidence back :)

This is half way through treatment, it works fast. Chuffed at getting served at the bar at age 15.

[ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay]

I had my 10 mtg old dd in navy leggings, a yellow cardigan and a cream hat. Old lady in the chemist was talking to me about dd but kept calling her him. Over and over again. When she asked what his name was I said her (very obviously a girl) name and she just looked at me and said "why is she dressed like a boy then, where is her dress?" I just shook my head and left.

[MrsHarveySpecterV]

With DD I dressed her in pink most of the time - dresses, coats with frills, fully bonnets - and (usually elderly)people would always ask what's his name!!! She looked like girl even in her face from when she was born, she was petite, had lots of hair and long eye lashes. I used to wonder if they said it to be annoying knowing they were wrong??? So I don't think it matters what you dress them in. Since I've had DS I haven't had one person guess wrong re their sex however I am always asked if they're twins!!! There's a year and a half between them! If I'm in a wicked mood I'll say yes he's just really small/she's really big and watch their eyes pop which makes me think they knew they weren't twins when they asked the question! People are weird!

[pinkpantsrock]

Other way round for me,
my ds2 is 18 months and has a full head of curly light brown hair, even when he’s dressed head to toe in very ‘boy’ clothes people still refer to him as a girl

He’s hair not even that long, i’ve not had it it yet as he won’t sit still but isn’t long and don’t he looks anything like a girl

doesn’t bother me in the slightest, find it mildly amusing watching their embarrassment when i correct them (most of the time i can’t be bothered)

[Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar]

Ah, he's a good looking boy, he'll come out on top.

[WaxOnFeckOff]

Iamgrey I think by that she means laser treatment or dembrasion or something like that. They'll give it a few months to see what improvement he gets naturally once he stops the drugs. DS1 is on same treatment but a stronger dose and combined with antibiotics. He doesn't look as scarred on his face but his was more on his head nose and chin and not so much his cheeks. Both their backs and chests are a mess but not so visible on a daily basis.

[Amanduh]

My ds has short hair, today had navy dungarees and a dinosaur voat on, third time this week he's been called 'she' because he has very blue eyes and is 'too pretty for a boy' 😂😂 It's often absurd, people just seem to have mindset about who the baby is and say it despite clothes etc.. I always think it's quite funny!

[seagreengirl]

WaxOnFeckOff love your post, I'm sorry that he has had so much trouble with acne.

I have one of each, DS and DD, 13 and 19, who looked identical as babies and wore pretty much gender neutral clothing. Even now DH can't tell if baby pictures are DS or DD, as I handed down a lot of clothes, but he has never been very observant.

When they stand together and hold their hair back thay look the same, although they are very easy to read as female and male with their normal clothing and hair styles.

I can't say I was overly bothered by people mistaking DD as a boy when she was a baby, I usually just smiled and nodded for an easy life.

[Nightfall1983]

Same thing here, never dress DD in pink or a dress, often mistaken for a boy (I never minded) but now at 22 months her hair has grown in and no matter what she wears (usually her iokder brothers hand me downs) everyone now knows/assumes that she is a girl. The switch happened slowly over the last few months...

[Fekko]

I remember DH asking a mum at playgroup what he's little boys name was. She replied 'sally'. I pointed out later that the dress was a bit of a giveaway. Of course you just can't generalise!

DS was sometimes mistaken for a girl when he was tiny - I assume it was his cute wee face and huge curls.

[GummyGoddess]

My ds has always been mistaken for a girl, I don't mind as I just think the world must agree with me that he's beautiful!

Sadly I don't have a backbone when some lovely people get it wrong, I'm happy for them to chat and play with him, but when they ask what 'her' name is (let's say he's called Max), I go it's Max...ine as I don't want to tell them they've got it wrong for the last 5 minutes

[FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty]

My DD had a lot of hand-me-downs from her brothers but she did also have quite a few things in brown, red, black/white etc that I'd bought specifically for her, some of which had distinctly 'girly' decorative features. She also had a red pushchair.

Even with a little bow in her hair people would call her 'he' when they looked at her, because apparently unless a girl is dressed head-to-toe in pastel pink then she is clearly a boy, YANBU to be pissed off about this OP!!

If it's any consolation, my DD has grown up to be a very articulate feminist and now wears whatever she chooses, whether that may be pretty girly clothes or a camouflage jacket and big boots. She has short hair, wears make-up and jewellery and is happy in her own skin.

[Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar]

Plastic surgery?

[WaxOnFeckOff]

Yes he does. Can't see much of it now (long hair/beard) and his poor skin has been ravaged with acne. :( On month 7 of roaccutane and spots gone but dermatologist reckons she'll need to refer him for plastic surgery. Still my beautiful boy underneath there somewhere.

[Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar]

It's not just the hair, Wax. He has a very soft face.

[WaxOnFeckOff]

Nope - he did this shortly afterwards but now (4 years later) has hair down past his shoulders and a beard he was getting served in pubs 3 years after this photo!

[HowDoYouWantToDoThis]

I had my 8 month old son sitting on my knee and someone asked me how old she was! He was wearing jeans and a pink and blue striped rugby shirt. The vaguest hint of pink and he MUST be a girl.

[Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar]

Yes, girl.

[Sayyouwill]

@WaxOnFeckOff girl?