To think a pink mark on his collar is make up

[Eden80]

I need opinions but have no idea how to upload a pic here - using phone app.

[holdbackonthewine]

bmarie: please RTFT OP has discussed with DH!

[bmarie]

Hmm I would be suspicious as well

Maybe bring it up as "ohh I noticed a mark on your collar whilst I was doing the washing did you spill something?" Or "noticed mark what is it so I can try get it out, don't want it to be ruined" and just judge his response etc

I'd just mention in a light hearted way and see what the reaction is so your not accusing before you know x

[Eden80]

‘MI'd let him go and be free to find someoen who does trust and appreciate him”
^
Really? You say that with such certainty without knowing a thing about him or a persons marriage. He could be a wife beater or emotionally abusive or anything for all you know! I have never seen so reply that lacked insight as much as that one. The man is quite free to fuck off anytime he pleases. I haven’t got him chained to the bed!^

[Thinkingofausername1]

Looks like blusher. Is he acting suspiciously at the moment aswell?

[SloeSloeQuickQuickGin]

TBH if you have no trust, then you have no relationship.

I'd let him go and be free to find someoen who does trust and appreciate him

[PollytheDolly]

Dust here too

[MrsTerryPratchett]

Hi MrEden

I still think it's dust if it's Africa.

[ahhhsalmonskinroll]

What were the other incidents that made you uneasy OP?

[BlueberryIce]

That’s a fair enough OP.

Tbh, I thought the behaviour you described after he got home sounded pretty innocent. I hope things pan out ok. Personally, I’d keep an eye out just in case though.

[Eden80]

He can’t really prove his innocence because he said there is no way of doing that as he isn’t sure what it is. I do believe him to be honest as he isn’t stupid enough to put it in the wash if he had been a dirty cheat. I’d like to think he wouldn’t risk his marriage and his children’s happiness on a cheap thrill - it wouldn’t be the person I married if he did.

[BlueberryIce]

So how did you tackle this with him OP? Did you end up in a heated argument? Is he trying to show you ‘evidence’ that he isn’t cheating?

[holdbackonthewine]

So what is the outcome OP?

[Eden80]

I think it was from blush make up on collar - what are the chances. It was helpful as he could see other women thought the same as me so I wasn’t being totally unreasonable

[PurpleDaisies]

Wow. That’s really unlucky. What did he search for? I can’t replicate that at all.

[Eden80]

Hi ladies bit of an update that may make you laugh - I asked my husband again about the mark and he was trying to think what it could be. He went and started googling images and the internet and came upon this thread. He saw the photo and said hey look this is the same - then said it’s my shirt! He proceeded to read the thread

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

* However it may require a password for that.*

I just tried this on my work phone (ios10) and my phone (ios11); both needed my fingerprint to open significant locations.

[AnnabellaH]

RockinHippy I agree. I've seen more women cheat than men ever have. They just were much less likely get caught.

[AnnabellaH]

Someone has had his shirt on... It's a bit cliche, but I think he knows exactly how it got there... That's the same mark I used to get when I wore blusher and put on a white work shirt too quick.

Unless... he's cheek kissed and got it on his own face then got it on the shirt when taking the collar up.

[RockinHippy]

Just playing Devils Advocate Fitz. Unless there’s a lot more going on to make the OP doubt her other half, this alone might not mean anything & though I’m a very firm believer in trusting your gut, we don’t know the OP & she could have past relationship experiences that leave her more paranoid about stuff like this. She may not of course. Also just because statics say her DP is more likely to cheat than a DW, doesn’t mean he is. Also my experience would dispute that statistic anyway, guys I’ve worked alongside when away from home have behaved themselves, the women, less often so, but are cleverer & don’t get caught

[Felinewonderful]

Sorry but I think it's blusher or foundation, this would make me very suspicious

[catsandbooks]

I would be a bit suspicious. I think it looks like makeup that gets on your clothes when you wear foundation. I wondered if someone else put the shirt on and it transferred.

[Paperdoll16]

I think it looks like where there has been lipstick marks on the neck that has rubbed along the folded crease. I would be suspicious as hell after seeing that, whilst away, with sporadic contact, and him going back in a short succession of time (was the next trip planned a long time ago or is this a new thing all of a sudden?)

[FritzDonovan]

Not really, I used to often have to work away from home & I would have been pretty peed off if DH was checking my clothes & questioning where certain marks came from & would have pointed out he was being ridiculous - not because I was cheating, but because I WASN’T
With all due respect though rockin, anecdotal evidence seems to suggest that men are more likely to cheat while working away than women. Just look at all the threads on here. I occasionally worked away years ago and the thought of cheating never occurred to me. Dh works away and I found evidence on one occasion that he planned to. That's a whole other thread, but to me it adds fuel to what OP says about if they think they can get away with it, many men would cheat. Even those 'good guys' who no one ever suspects.
OP. Hope you find out. It's a horrible feeling.

[SwishswishBiTCH]

I agree with most other people. My first thought was blusher.

Hope you get to the bottom of it OP

[Ttbb]

Looks a lot like something that he was wearing himself has rubbed off. Ut looks a lot like the kind of foundation stains you get when you remove your clothes rubbing then against your face in the process. My best guess would be blusher, lipstick would be darker. Most likely from a hug.