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To be upset about nurture group

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Battyboo82 · 16/10/2017 21:22

At parent's evening I was told DS, 5, has been put into a nurture group because he is quiet and seems to be lacking in confidence.
Obviously I've Googled this and am now worried he's in a group for troubled children. He has to go off to a special room once a week and lie in a tent with teddies and things. (he told me this).
The school didn't ask if I'd mind if he was in this group or really explain what it was. I've emailed the teacher to see if I can go in again and have a chat to her about it.
Another issue that's coming into play is DS has recurrent ear infections and has to go and see a specialist. I'm wondering if he can't hear what's going on in class?

Any thoughts on these groups / experience of them I'd be grateful as worried - feel like he's being treated as if he has special needs when he's a really bright little boy.

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Sashkin · 16/10/2017 22:55

OP, I can see exactly why you are upset. If they have concerns about your son that have led to them separating him from the rest of the class, I would have expected them to have communicated those concerns to you long before now. It doesn't matter whether they think your son is just very shy, or has SEN, if it is affecting him that much it should have been mentioned.

Definitely get both his sight and hearing checked. I was labelled as "disruptive", "messing about" and "never paying any attention" aged 7, because I kept on getting up out of my seat and could never answer any questions. I actually just needed glasses, because I couldn't read the OHP from my table and so wasn't able to follow the lesson. I was only getting up to read the board better (I had told the teacher that, but they didn't believe me). I was top of the class once I could see.

I'm also now partially deaf, and if I'm in a noisy environment and can't hear what's being said I might ask people to repeat themselves a couple of times, but after that I will give up and just sit and smile politely at people. That could easily come across as being a bit dim if it's happening in a classroom setting.