To expect an invite for DD?

[Rainraingoawayagain]

My DD7 has a best friend at school who lives relatively close by. I have had best friend over for tea several times and over to play,she's a lovely little girl and enjoys coming here.
Anyway.. on more than several occasions they will both run up to me (at the school run) and say they want to play today but it's ALWAYS at our house!
They will run up to the other mum (best friends mum) and ask and she says oh we will have to arrange for DD to come over but has NEVER followed through. I seen her at the shops the other day and she said "
my DD really misses your DD will have to get them together soon" I said yes absolutely I then receive a text saying what date And what time shall I drop DD to you ? I haven't replied as I really think it's rude not to return the invite! AIBU? Me and other mum get on absolutely fine always friendly etc. Can I also mention that my DD WAS NOT invited to her party a few weeks ago my DD is very well mannered so I'm so confused as to why she's being treated this way.

[Rainraingoawayagain]

That's a good idea I might suggest that later

[WhatchaMaCalllit]

Rain - any chance of getting the kids of the other parents who replied to that facebook post over to yours for a get together? Expand your DD's social group a bit??

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

Sorry but I wpuld have the little girl over or if I did I'd be dropping hints like clangers.

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

She's missing a trick - extra kid in the house is not (necessarily) extra work. When Dd has a friend over, they play together and I have time to do my bits. Much easier than just having DD following me.

[Rainraingoawayagain]

I will definitely stick to it. DD wants DD friend over on Monday to play i said to my DD she can but I will text mother later asking if this is ok and if it is il be giving her a time to walk her up the road to us and what time to pick up if she's not free we will be having cousin over any way so she will have someone to play with either way :)

[Aeroflotgirl]

Your plan is very good, stick to that, don't stop having the little girl round, but when you want, on your terms, not on Mrs Users.

[Rainraingoawayagain]

Oh well.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Does not sound like she likes kids very much! even though mine are a pain, I could never palm them off like that.

[Mummmzzyy88]

I wouldn't want me DD there now tbh she doesn't seem very child friendly

[Boaby]

Eurgh, parents like this are the worst.

[Boaby]

OP I don't think I'd want to send my daughter round there since she obviously sees her own as a burden "she's driving me nuts". Children pick up on contempt & it would be awkward knowing you're not wanted/welcome.

[Aeroflotgirl]

I would have posted that Rainraingo

[missmollyhadadolly]

That was quick!

The good news is a few people must have turned her down, like the OP, hence resorting to begging in a FB status.

What good are her playground circle of mums now?!

[Rainraingoawayagain]

Wish I could post the Facebook post I don't think I'm the only one lol
One other commented " time for a hobby" and another posted " will text you soon, arrange a date"

[Yika]

Poor kid.

[Aventurine]

Let her move onto another mug.

[Aeroflotgirl]

she is a drain, who take take take!

[Aeroflotgirl]

Good on you, she is a brass necked user, and now you know what her agenda is, she wan'ts to palm off her dd onto other people for free babysitting as she's had enough.

[Rainraingoawayagain]

I untagged and ignored the "post to timeline as well option"

[Rainraingoawayagain]

She already has missmolly.
She posted on Facebook this morning (pops up on my news feeds) " anyone free for a few hours need to get DD OUT she's driving me nuts" she has tagged me and three others in the post I have absolutely no idea why I'm tagged and one of the other mums is another mum from the school! I of course ignored lol

[missmollyhadadolly]

I'm shocked at this level of brass-neckedness.

OP, please do update us when she makes her next suggestion for your hospitality.

[Yika]

The mother is unbelievably rude and mean and I think your approach is spot on, not discouraging your children's friendship but putting some clear boundaries in place as far as your own involvement is concerned.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Its hurtful knowing your dd was not invited to her best friends party. It sounds like the mums doing. I think op is doing the right thing.

[Pollypudding]

I am struggling to understand why you want your DD to go to a place where she is clearly not welcome, if you want to encourage the friendship out of school then accept that you will be the host. If not then a simple" no I'm afraid that is not convenient" will suffice.