Reasons I should go:
I've already sent rsvp for myself and my daughter
It will make things easier for MIL
I have a dress
It will be pleasant and I don't minspd chatting away to people I don't know.
Reasons to cancel:
Already annoyed that I got a save the date card for the wedding then only got an evening invite. I don't mind an evening invite but the std card was misleading and led me to buy a dress I didn't need, too far in advance to return it.
I originally agreed to go because if I hadn't, MIL wouldn't have gone alone, which would have upset wedding family.
I'm only invited because I'm the partner of a family member who actually can't go himself due to ill health.
MIL is invited to the full thing. She's persuaded me to also attend the service and pay for my own meal at the wedding breakfast. I'd have to pay more for the wedding catering food than I'd have to pay for the pub lunch but can't have the normal pub lunch as I'm seated with the wedding party.
DD is very very quiet and will struggle all day.
MIL is putting pressure on me to get ill dp to go so that she won't be embarrassed that he's not there.bshe thinks I'm not making enough effort to get him to go.
So, the MIL pressure is the last straw. It's not me they want there, it's dp who can't go. I'm thinking of politely cancelling, maybe referring to DD's shyness/social anxiety and acting as MIL' S chauffeur. I'd need to drive her there, 1.5 hours and pick her up the next day. Will I be wrong to do this?
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Yvetteballs · 02/07/2017 16:48
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