Be gentle with me please!
I can't go into too much detail as it's pretty outing. I have a colleague who is also my ex partner. He is senior to me in the organisation and he is quite influential (he likes to flex his muscles and throw his weight around).
When we were together we would argue about personal things. He would bring work into it - he would threaten to cause me problems with my colleagues, to tell people intimate things about me and even to get me sacked. I believed him and because of his threats I did things I didn't want to. My job was unstable at the time and he knew this and how worried I was.
Fast forward a few months. I finally found the courage to leave him. He carried on acting up at work and making things difficult. I approached HR who told me to put in a formal complaint about the threats.
I did and 8 months later they are dealing with it. There has been a series of blunders and this has been one of the most difficult things I've ever done. However..... he was interviewed recently. I have learnt that HR had one of my friends sit in on the 'interview panel'. I asked my friend not to do this but they still did. They then declared a conflict of interest the next day. They should have done this before. I am now really worried that this will undermine the whole investigation, it will fall flat on its face and my ex will have the green light to carry on behaving the way he did.
So.... AIBU to pull this complaint? I can't put myself through all this for it to come to nothing due to a technicality. I don't want my ex to get in trouble but he really can't carry on behaving how he has been.
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To let him get away with it?
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CupcakeBabaPoo · 29/06/2017 19:51
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