My husband has been experiencing problems with alcohol abuse, it has got worse and worse over the years, and has finally resulted in a serious incident. He is not living at home at the moment with me and our children. He is awaiting an appointment with a psychologist through the NHS, and is paying for counselling privately in the mean time. He feels he turns to alcohol because of stress and depression, and if he can tackle these issues, he can drink alcohol in a controlled way. He feels his issue is not with addiction and he does not need AA. I agree he has problems with stress and depression, but also with addiction, and feel he simply cannot and should not drink alcohol. I don't think I will ever get to a point where I can feel relaxed about him drinking. I am also frustrated and angry at the fact that despite all the heart ache and upset we have been through, he can sit there and say to me it's no big deal if he drinks a few beers...
So, does anyone have experience of this? Have you or a partner or someone you know overcome alcohol abuse? How did you/they do it? Do you think it's possible to drink alcohol safely if you have had problems with it in the past, or does alcohol need to be cut from your life? I feel like it will never just be one beer with him, and although it's a devastating prospect, it's a marriage deal breaker, but AIBU?
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user1490655749 · 23/06/2017 10:23
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