I had another consultant appointment today for my pregnancy and it's the second time I have seen this particular doctor (not the lead consultant). The first time he made me cry, questioning why I was on anxiety medication in a really inappropriate way and being a bit of a sexist, arrogant buffoon.
I didn't make any kind of complaint last time although he did really set me back on terms of my mental health.
So, today I go in and he immediately was dismissive of my anxiety and questioning why I was on medication- I explained the reasons and said my GP, the lead consultant and my mental health consultant all agreed that it was better to do so. This seemingly was not good enough as he rolled his eyes several times and said 'but do YOU feel that you need it' - it has changed my life, I was having up to 25 panic attacks a day and now some days I don't have any so yes, he rolled his eyes again.
I then explained I was getting pain, he dismissed it and said he was not worried. I asked about the growth of the baby as the sonographer had said the baby was big and they may test for diabetes. He just waived his hand dismissively and didn't answer when I asked about that. Well, put it this way, he laughed at me and behaved entirely inappropriately throughout and DP fully agreed that he was terrible both times.
Anyway, at the end he asked me to complete a feedback form for him - this apparently was meant to be 'anonymous' but he wanted me to complete it in front of him. I pulled up my big girls pants and despite being a tad anxious I gave him really low scores with feedback about how he had made me feel. --I then ran out.
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DP thinks I'm ruthless and I should have just given him decent scores as we will likely see him again but I feel justified- I don't want to get him in trouble but it's not okay to treat people like that in my mind. So, who is BU - me or DP?
AIBU?
To give terrible feedback...?
MarcelineTheVampire · 06/04/2017 15:30
YANBU...Good for you...often these consultants get given god-like status and patients feel too intimidated to speak out so well done for sticking up not just for yourself but for all the other patients he will treat this way.....
for you
I went to my GP when I was 8 weeks pregnant with twins, with terrible constipation. She prescribed suppositories. I went home, read the insert, and it said it had an extremely high risk of causing miscarriage in early pregnancy!!!! I changed GP surgeries immediately. I have wished since then that I had put in a formal complaint.
Now, I would've done what you did, except I would not have given him the feedback form, as he probably shredded it. I would've handed it in at reception, so someone else was aware of the problem.
Sorry you had to go through this .
FWIW I was on sertraline with DD1, 12 years ago. She came at 40+6 completely fine and is brighter then me if I'm being honest. We joke she's adopted.
Is he from a different culture? I'm not remotely racist but my consultant used to when discussing having sex during the pregnancy tell DH not me.
I was a bit 
but even the nurse said afterwards not to take it personally.
Is he from a different culture? I'm not remotely racist
I was wondering this also Unborn. I went to a dentist once who treated me horribly. He really hurt me and even damaged one tooth so much I had to have it extracted later. He was a Muslim man, and I was a white Christian woman. I do think this had a lot to do with it 
, as all his male patients said how great he was. And I'm not remotely racist either, but this did happen, and it does happen, unfortunately.
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