This is more of a wtf post than AIBU. Have name changed too.
This morning at about 7.20 I get out of bed and approach her bedroom door with no clothes on to ask 17 year old dd ( who is dressed) to answer the front door bell. As she comes out of her room, I glimpse a lad standing there! He also sees me in all my naked glory!
I'm so shocked, I say 'is there someone in your room?' to which she says 'No' although there is no doubt there is a person, so this is lie number 1. I retreat, still being naked, and tell her to get him out of the house immediately, which she does. It turns out that it's a lad she met last summer, that she had a flirtation with, and that she still talks to on Instagram etc. I'll call him Barney. He lives about 15 miles way, but is at college in our town. She tells me that he called by this morning having spent the night at a friends house nearby. I wasn't sure whether I believed this, but she assures me she was telling the truth. I don't really believe her. I have a shout at her for not telling me that there's someone in the house as it's not unusual for me to walk around with no clothes etc, although usually I get up after she's left the house to go to college.
Anyway, I now think he arrived at our house last night, as she closed the curtains at the back just before she went to bed at about 11pm, which she has never done. We live in a ground floor flat and there's a door from her bedroom into the garden which can be accessed from the side of the house. She never uses this door and tends to clutter up the entrance to it, but having just been into her room now, the access is clear, there's a few leaves inside, and the door is unlocked! What's more, the key isn't in the lock where it always is kept, as it's a fire exit, if ever needed. I'm now wondering if this is a regular occurrence and how long it's been going on, and whether he has the door key! We were away for a long weekend, and I'm even wondering if he was here while we were away!
I'm so upset that dd has been so devious and also lied to me. She's been a pretty trouble free teenager up to now, but this feels so disrespectful to me, and has also compromised the security of our home, by leaving the door unlocked today.
Any thoughts please on how best to handle this with her?
AIBU?
Fuming at DD's unexpected visitor
bloodyfuming9 · 15/03/2017 14:46
Ha Ha, is it me? I would rather daughter have sex anywhere BUT my home. (But in reality I would rather that she didn't have sex till she fell in love with somebody, I am obviously a dinosaur :-) 
My DM quite often wandered from bedroom to bathroom in the nude when we were teenagers. No big deal.. Except, I didn't much like seeing her body, at that age I thought her huge boobs were saggy and not nice to see.. But I never would have said... Not proud of that but can't help the way my teenage self felt.
If you have come thus far without any previous big difficulties with your daughter then I presume you have a good relationship with her and she's usually quite honest and responsible. On that basis I'm sure you'll both be able to work this out YANBU to expect your DD to treat you and your home with respect. Good luck 
Also, I last saw my mum naked a year and a half ago, I didn't die of shock or anything me and DD were naked too - in the sauna
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