I have a husband and one dc with another due in June.
I have zero support from my own family, very few friends and certainly noone i feel i can talk to.
My husbands dm and i dont get on. I feel she is emotionally abusive. She makes very little effort with us and our dc whereas she falls over herself for my husband's brother, his wife and his child (same age). My mil is very sneaky in her ways and my husband makes me feel like its my fault. The reality is she has favourites and its not us. My husband has no relationship with his brother because mil has pitted them against each other all their lives and are now so competitive and resentful of each other it is crazy.
Anyway, my husband also has emotionally abusive traits. He was physically abusive earlier in our relationship until i called the police. The physical abuse stopped and he got counselling and things improved so much that we got married...then had dc. I am now a sahm and feel trapped. He critacises me constantly. I am called lazy, slovenly, a cun£ and more several times a week. Because my background was bad (2 alcoholic parents who do nothing for anyone and live in dirty house with no care for anything) this is thrown back at me constantly.
He says things like 'i dont want an argument but because you are used to living in dirty houses you dont know how to clean properly/cant clean properly' and throws it back in my face all the time.
I do my best in the house but im not a professional cleaner and i never aspired to be a housewife. I had a successful career prior to dc1 arriving and with dc 2 on the way i now feel trapped.
Aibu to feel that this constant critacism plus zero support and a horrid mil could be driving me into depression?
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doingmybestneverenough · 14/03/2017 13:24
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