Please tell me if IABU, because I'm honestly not sure.
Years ago I was engaged to a guy who turned out to be a cheating idiot. I broke off the engagement, but stayed loosely in touch with his family as they are lovely people. His mum in particular had been engaged to one or two others before she met his dad, so she understood the sadness of losing touch with potential extended family when engagements end.; she was as keen to stay in touch as me.
Years pass, and now I'm married with two DC. Two years ago we made a day trip to visit them (just ex's parents) in a town far away, and DH was alright with it alothough privately commenting that it felt a bit weird. He got on well with them though, chatting and such. We all had a nice day.
Now it's two years later, and the building works on their new place have finished. We were invited to drive over and spend a night in the flat attached to their home, as it's a long way to drive there and back in one day. I consulted DH and he agreed to it with no quibble. I've been looking forward to it.
Today he announced that he's talked to his friends and actually it's a bit odd and weird and so he doesn't want to go. I angrily said 'Well stay here then' and he said 'Fine, I will'. I shouldn't have snapped, but I'm upset at the situation he's put me in. I don't want to cancel and think it would be rude to cancel at such short notice (it's next week). DH and I haven't been getting on very well recently anyway and this just feels like another nail in the coffin for me.
I'd be grateful for opinions on how to proceed from here please. I would be equally grateful if the 'Oh I could NEVER stay in touch with my ex's parents; that's SO weird' brigade could kindly keep their opinions to themselves, as clearly we differ on that point.
Thanks all.
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LaContessaDiPlump · 12/03/2017 10:59
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