I have (or had) a friend whom I got on well with. We shared similar attitudes to most things and most importantly we were well away from the school playground.
My friend recently got married. I knew I wasn't invited but I wasn't even told the date. Nor was I told when her son was born. I decided (perhaps stupidly) to see if I didn't bother getting in touch, how long it would be before my friend got in touch with me. This was September and I'm still waiting.
I know I have ignored her on one occasion (I know its childish). This was in December and tbh my new baby was screaming (later discovered he had undiagnosed medical issues and not just hungry as everyone including the doctor was telling me), my DS1 and DD2 were trying to kill each other. Id also been to visit my mum that day and had a particularly toxic afternoon with her, so by the time I bumped into my friend, I had simply had enough. My argument being if she thought I was off, why in the name of all that's hairy did she not say something? I would have done.
I am a very shy person with a narcissistic mother so for me confrontation is impossible. Also, I never talk to people unless I am invited (years of my opinion being unimportant and and stupid). My friend is very outgoing and is always surrounded by people and I find it incredibly hard to enter into these conversation groups and as a result people think I am snobby. I can assure you I'm not. I'm so shy, the playground drop off is a massive thing to me.
Anyway for the last couple of years, prior to September, it has always been me dropping in to see her, me texting to see if shes in etc etc. She always says she will get in touch when shes got time for me and it never happens! She nags me for lifts to places and then goes with other people. I suppose I just thought if she really wanted to be friends, she would make some effort too. I know Im not perfect but I think its unfair to not even give me a second chance when I keep dishing 2nd chances out all the time!
AIBU? Its making me so bloody miserable! And the thing is, if she knocked on my door now, id be so pleased and offer her a cup of tea. I feel really hurt, I did apologise via a text message after she said she did not want her children to have anything to do with me because of my behaviour(?) and I tried to explain why I was hurt but she never bothered to reply and the atmosphere if we meet at school is so awful, I try not to attend any school functions any more.
What more can I do without turning into a crazy stalker ? Should I try and talk to her face to face? I haven't told anyone what s going on although Im sure the school grapevine has (albeit a load of rubbish)?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
AIBU to feel hurt too?
25 replies
cheekybean · 06/03/2017 10:33
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.