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AIBU?

To say that if exH has been our all night drinking that he cleary can't care for DD?

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ilovehalloumi · 14/02/2017 08:53

I'm sure I'm not, but im being told I am.

ExH got in from a night drinking with workmates after his shift at 6.25. I know because he has been sending me incoherent texts since then and before that phone was off so am assuming that's when he got to a charger. Texts literally make no sense, so judging by them he is still pissed.

Have taken a days leave and told him I will care for her. Judging by misspelt swear words on text he is not happy about this.

I am livid.

AIBU? He will probably turn up later this morning. Want to be certain im not being.

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Trifleorbust · 14/02/2017 09:43

No, OP, given the update, YANBU. Only 3 hours between getting in after an 8 hour session and being in charge of a child is daft. I agree with you.

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Peanutandphoenix · 14/02/2017 09:47

Yarbu he is still drunk if he can't string a coherent sentcen together he's an irresponsible idiot and he's going to miss out on spending the day with his dd because he thought a night out on the lash with his mates was a better idea he's not 18 anymore. I think you should go out somewhere just incase he turns up on the bounce.

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Benedikte2 · 14/02/2017 09:49

Aside from the driving angle, what sort of supervision would he be providing for DD? At best he'll be grumpy on the couch with the TV on and telling her to be quiet and not bother him.
Insist he provides a substitute day's care.

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ilovehalloumi · 14/02/2017 09:50

To be honest i think you nailed it. His new mates are all younger and he seems to think he is 18. His manchild tendencies were one of the big reasons we broke up in the first place.

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Ledkr · 14/02/2017 09:53

Ha ha. Sounds like my ex halloumi he's 48 now and still hangs around with young uns 😂 My sister thought he was a youth leader when she saw him. He looks thoroughly ridiculous tbh.

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 14/02/2017 10:03

There are some people who wake up in the morning with really bad hangovers but they just get on with it.

There are others who use it as an excuse to ignore everything around them even without other grown ups around to take care of stuff.

Someone who does the first will struggle to get their heads round the mentality of someone who does the second.

It's the difference between cant and just dont want to. Both are problems when you are trying to parent a child. responsible people do not get into states like that but the second is worse imo.
YANBU

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Deathraystare · 14/02/2017 11:48

I hope Mummy tells her manchild what she thinks of him!

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Allthebestnamesareused · 14/02/2017 12:28

Sorry - was I the only one who giggled that the evidence of his being drunk was misspelled words and then the OP misspelled a word in her title.

No really though - if he has been out on an all nighter he would still be over the limit to drive (assuming he'd be collecting by car) and also to look after a young child responsibly too.

Tell him to get back in touch when he is in a fit state.