AIBU To Think Adressing A Child As Sexy Is Wrong?

[zukiecat]

I work in my local shop, and most customers are lovely though some are less so

On my shift this morning a mother was addressing her child as "Sexy". As in "Hi Sexy" "Want some juice Sexy" and "Give The Lady your penny Sexy"

The child would have been about 3 or 4 and I know it's none of my business, and if people have nicknames for their child, then that's fine.

But Sexy seemed a bit off or am I being an old fuddy duddy?

[cbigs]

dog called sexy 😂😂
Awful op. Just why? 😖

[RochelleGoyle]

It's horrible and inappropriate. Probably not meant with any sinister intent but mindless all the same.

[CantChoose]

I've heard this several times before. I don't think anything untoward is meant by it but I definitely wouldn't do it myself.

[WetPaint4]

Yep, definitely weird. Nothing about a child ever needs to be 'sexy'. I would let a person know I was uncomfortable if I heard them refer to my niece or nephew in that way.

[ThaliaLuxurySpa]

Inappropriate and very strange. Makes me feel quite ill, actually.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

YANBU. I was going to say its borderline perverted, but. It is full on perverted

[zukiecat]

No MommaGee

It was very definitely and very clearly "Hi Sexy"

[MommaGee]

could her name be something very similar to sexy and you misheard? just hoping...

[SingingInTheRainstorm]

Definitely weird. YANBU

[icelolly99]

It's not right is it; very strange and inappropriate 😲

[zukiecat]

I haven't heard it used here before, I am also gobsmacked that it's commonplace elsewhere

Not a word I ever used (or would think of using) for any of my DC

[Italiangreyhound]

WEIRD, WEIRD, WEIRD! Kids are not and should not be called sexy!

[Fuxfurforall]

Really common round here - a mum kept calling my daughter "sexy". I asked her not to - she genuinely didn't get why I didn't like it. It is a weirdly common thing round here - lots of mums do it. I loathe it.

[greeeen]

Not quite the same but someone I know constantly says my DD (9months) is flirting when she smiles/interacts with a man. "Oh she is such a flirt!" "Flirting already!" Etc it makes me irrationally angry and disgusted even though I'm sure they don't mean any offence and are trying to be funny. I just want to shout stop sexualising my baby!

[ErrolTheDragon]

Gobsmacked that anyone would do this, let alone that it's apparently commonplace.

[blue2014]

Really really normal where I live, to the point I hadn't noticed it was odd until DH pointed it out

[ArmySal]

A lady I work with calls her granddaughter ''Sexy Lexy''.

Makes me wince.

[TheCustomaryMethod]

It sounds wrong for a child, and, I think, wrong for anyone with whom you have a close familial relationship. I just tried to imagine telling my sister, mum or dad that they looked 'sexy' and it felt very 'ugh'.

[ditzychick34]

Just plain wrong

[gunsandbanjos]

That is grim, really can't understand why anyone would think it ok.

[Farfromtheusual]

I hate it too!! My mom and sister both call my DS a 'sexy boy'. Wrong on so many levels

[MrsEricBana]

A visitor to my house once said "Hi Sexy" to my then toddler ds. I was horrified that she thought it appropriate. Hi Handsome/Cutie etc fine.

[DJBaggySmalls]

I dont want to be the voice of doom. But sometimes people do things like this to confuse children. It can make their testimony less believable.
It can also be a way of showing off and demanding attention. Advertising how wrong things are.
I'm not saying that is what was happening in this case. But if your spidey senses scream 'eew' then its better to listen to them.

[NetflixandBill]

I have never come across this and would find it really wierd, but this has been mentioned in threads before and it seems to be quite regional

[Lorelei76]

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww