Before I explain I just want to make it clear that I don't want this to turn into a typical exh slagging match. I need good advice on what's best for dc as opposed to myself or exh.
So here goes. Exh had 3 dc for 1 wk of the Xmas holidays. Dc are 15, 11 and 8 yrs old.
Most of the week was spent with arguments between exh and his partner and his partners dd (19yrs old with her own 8mth old baby.) Exh hates his partners dd and dgd. I don't know why. I've kept out of that side of things as its none of my business. Anyway my dc have come back today, all really upset because of the arguing. 15 yrs old dd told her dad she wasn't going back to see him until he'd been to a doctor and got himself sorted out. (He has a history of mental illness)
This isn't the first time in his relationship that this has happened. In the past there have been police reports filed against them with violence between exh and new partner but as there was no threat to the children my solicitor and I decided it was OK for them to continue going. There has been no physical threat to date with dc until this time when he grabbed dd (15yr) by the arm. She said she doesn't feel safe with him now and doesn't want to go back. (Our marriage broke down due to his physical violence towards me in front of the dc)
I've talked to other 2 dc and said perhaps it would be better for them to stay home next time to give exh and his partner a bit of space and time without the dc around to try to sort their relationship.
Over the years myself and exh have been through court and lots of nastiness, but over that last few years have manged to maintain an amicable relationship. I know if I go down solicitor route again this will come to an end. Don't know what to do now. AIBU? Sorry for the long post but it's important that you all understand the history as well as the present situation. Thank you.
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WildRoses · 01/01/2017 21:43
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