To be fed of conversations like this?

[Marmite27]

'What do we have in for tea'
'Meatballs, pasta and sauce or steak and potato pie and peas'
'I don't fancy either of those'
'What do you fancy then?'
'I don't know'

Aargh, I've started responding with 'what a wonderful dilemma to have, do you know how many people would love to be in your shoes'

It's seriously pissing me off!

[harderandharder2breathe]

If kids tell them it's an either or choice, pick one or you will just do what you fancy and they can eat it or go hungry (assuming both options are things they normally eat not something they hate)

If DH then just feed yourself and dc and let him sort himself out but make sure he clears up after himself as well as cooking

[PirateCatOvenGloveOption]

When he says, "I don't fancy either of those", are you not tempted to say, "Wey hey, that's me off the hook for cooking then", and go and sit in the lounge with a G and T you could float a moderate sized sailing boat in?

[Softkitty2]

Or just say those are the 2 options you have if you don't let me know which one you want i will make the decision and just cook for myself.

Or say i'm cooking this you can take it or leave it.

[GrumpyOldBag]

YANBU.

I get this from everyone in the family.

DH claims it is so he can choose red or white wine for dinner.

The DC just complain if it's something that's off the their limited repertoire of steak, sausages or chicken.

Well they can all fuck off. Tonight we are having vegan roasted squash and beans. Because that's the kind of food I like to eat. And anyone who doesn't want it can make their own bloody dinner.

[Lorelei76]

After "I don't fancy either of those" you say "you cook your own then"
Sorted.

I'd like either, can I come over now?

[mumsiedarlingrevolta]

My DD gave me a hanging sign for my birthday.
it says

DINNER CHOICES

1. Take it
   
2. Leave it

[Babblehag]

My friends dp tells his kids that they can season it with tears of disappointment I have also used it my self a few times.

[thatdearoctopus]

I married the indecisive arse!

Trust me, his lack of decisiveness is not your main problem here!

[Marmite27]

Babblehag that's amazing, I'll be stealing that

[Wolpertinger]

I also don't offer options. I cook, he doesn't so I get to decide.

If he hates it, I don't do it again but basically that's my one concession. Otherwise he can learn to cook, do the mealplanning, shopping etc as sometimes it's flippin tedious.

Your DH doesn't know how lucky he is.

[GasLightShining]

Options not offten given. Sometimes I might say to DH I am defrosting chicken so do you want chicken this or chicken that.

If he comes home and says he doesn't fancy what I am cooking he can make himself what ever he fancies

[ZippyNeedsFeeding]

I offer mine two options- eat it or starve. When he cooks I don't whinge and I expect the same courtesy from him.

If we have plenty in, I might give him a choice of two things (rarely). He knows me well enough to know that either he picks one or there will be trouble.

Letting him be a fusspot only sets a bad example to the children and the last thing I need is a houseful of complainers.

[MaisieDotes]

DH never asks what dinner is, just eats it when it appears.

DD will ask but wouldn't dare comment A disappointed "oh" when I bark "stew!" is as much as she'll venture.

[bigbluebus]

I don't offer a choice. As a PP said, I shop and cook and they get what they are given and be grateful for having a meal on the table in front of them. Teenage DS has learned to quietly pick out the bits he doesn't like and leave them on the edge of his plate without comment.

What irritates me is when at the weekend DH says he will cook, he asks what he should actually make for tea. I explain that if I have got to decide what to make for tea then I might as well do it myself as it is not the cooking that is the chore, but the deciding what to have. He is slowly learning not to ask.

[CesareBorgiasUnicornMask]

I take Pirate's approach. If what I'm offering to cook is rejected then clearly it's up to DH to produce an alternative or order a takeaway.

[celtiethree]

Agree with don't offer an option. At the moment I do most of the cooking, I cook one dish. Will not offer a choice and don't cater to fussiness, i.e. don't take out veggies, or other ingredients to suit individual tastes. If they don't like it they can shop and cook.

[2kids2dogsnosense]

it myself as it is not the cooking that is the chore, but the deciding what to have

That's what I find, too - sometimes my exhausted little brain can't go any further than "sossidges" (and it spells like that, it is so knackered)

[dingdongdigeridoo]

I don't offer options anymore. Since I do all the cooking and shopping, it's my perogative to choose what we eat. If DH doesn't like it then he can drive to Tesco!

Half the time he wolfs it down without tasting it anyway, so I don't think he cares.

[IJustWantABrew]

Mine does this. When he does offer a suggestion and I cook it a few days later he has quite often changed his mind

[Pineapplemilkshake]

Babblehag I love that phrase and think I'll keep it for future use

Try it with Hunger Sauce is also another one I've heard.

Thankfully DP and I don't usually have this dilemma. We take turns doing the shopping and DP does almost all of our cooking. I have a repertoire of about 3 meals, all of which involve pasta which DP hates, this gets me out of cooking more

[Jaimx86]

DP and I eat the same meal four nights in a row 80% of the time, so he is very lucky to have a choice!

[Velvetbee]

My exhausted little brain spells it 'sossjiz', 2kids.
And DH cooks for himself on week-nights so we don't have a debate and cooks for us all at weekends (and I wouldn't dream of questioning his choices).

[DefinitelyNotAJourno]

Don't give any opportunity for discussion. Put out the food you're serving, and they can eat it. If it's not eaten within a time frame you define, take it away and don't offer an alternative. It'll cure fussy eaters within the week.

[Bluepowder]

I have the nicest family at mealtimes. They eat whatever I make and say thank you afterwards. They aren't very fussy at all.