To be sick of schools asking for money

[cookieswirls]

My dd brings home a letter almost every week where the school will ask for money of some kind. I understand they are raising money for charities but they have stated a few times now that a percentage of the money raised will go towards the school. Surely they should do their own fundraising for that? I would rather donate personally rather than being made to feel obliged to pay something nearly every week! So far since September I have paid £26 ,and counting,into the school and that's just from me.

[Ylvamoon]

coasts I meant costs!

[Ylvamoon]

Your school sounds like my DD old primary school... always raising money for all kinds of charities.
I "pulled the plug" after two major events.
1st: DD (8 at the time) was told that if she don't buy a certain bracelet, a child will die of cancer. She was very upset about this, as I wasn't prepared to spend £1 on a plastic thing. After "donating" money on numerous other occasions. (Let the crucifixion begin!)

2nd: a very unpleasant letter for the governors of the school, after they tried to do their own fundraising for building a new spots hall. Agreed they needed it & school is voluntarily funded which means they have to raise a % of the coasts. It basically stated, that they can't understand that parents have so little interest in improving their children's education and that the governor will resign due to luck of interest from the parents. With a few more harsh comments.

That's, when I stopped giving money to anything except for school trips of course. I refuse to be bullied into opening my wallet for whatever reasons. And using children, is the worst kind!
There should be more rules and regulation about fundraising in schools, to ensure, donations are actually donations, not guilt trip money.

[CharliAliciaLuke]

People get so arsey with each other on here.

I know my mum got pissed off when i was in school. not everyone can afford to pay all of this money all the time, they make you feel obliged.

You're not being unreasonable.
Good god.

[BertrandRussell]

Sorry, Maui- what did I misunderstand? The OP said " I would rather they said they will do a bake sale etc for school fundraising" and clarified that "they" means the school.

[gamerwidow]

Fundraising for the school should not be tagged onto other activities. I'm chair of the PTA and it is a massive headache trying to get people interested in fundraising for the school but we would never hijack children in need etc. to siphon off money.

[HanYOLO]

It should be clearly separate.
And families should not be put in a position where they are repeatedly asked to shell out for charities chosen because the school gets a payback.
YANBU in the slightest £26 over half a term is not a negligable sum to many people.

[MauiWest]

So you want the school to organize a bake sale? Who? And who will do whatever it is they should be doing while they organize it?



I love it when posters are being deliberately obtuse. This is not what the OP said at all, come on.

[DollopofTrollop]

I've just paid £30 for a trip to the natural history museum ... Which has free entry !!!

[BertrandRussell]

But first add up how much money comes in from the donations currently being asked for and work out how many bake sales you'd have to organiseto raise the same amount of money.

And also remember that many parents say that they would rather make regular donations than co tribute to/buy from bake sales or other fund raising events.

[BertrandRussell]

Go for it.

[cookieswirls]

I would love to organise a bake sale

[MidniteScribbler]

I would rather they said they will do a bake sale etc for school fundraising

So, I presume you will be volunteering to run this bake sale for them? Since it is your idea, then you will need to coordinate this event.

[PurpleMinionMummy]

I agree it's a bit cheeky and also think they should be separate. Having said that fundraising for a school is a thankless task (school appreciate it, other parents not always so much). The school themselves rarely have time for it and only a few parents will volunteer to help. I'm sure they'd love it if you offered to arrange one to raise funds specifically for the school though. If they get very little support from parents I don't blame them for taking the cheeky route.

[OlennasWimple]

I agree that fund raising for, say, Children In Need and the school should be kept separate. I'm usually happy to contribute to requests from school but I like to decide for myself which charities to support, so this blurred line would be a PITA for me

[Inthepalemoonlight]

If you can't afford it then you should not send any money in. If you can then £26 a month for charity donations and your total contributions for your DC's education for 3 months is nothing.
I wouldn't complain. You could join the PTA and help organise events to raise money just for the school. Nobody wants to be in the PTA so it is hard for them to raise money.

[Pickled0nions]

It's always the primary's and junior schools that do this. They did it even when I was at school. They find any excuse to collect a pot of money off kids.

[LilQueenie]

yanbu not to mention leader in me schools who pay to be in the programme. On top of all the other stuff money goes into that too. 6 years on I still wonder what the outcome is. Its fairly new.

[viques]

Until I read your last post I thought you were bu. but I have been involved in school fundraising for ever and think school fund and charity fundraising should be kept completely separate. I know a headteacher who snaffled £50 from a charity event I organised, I would never have known except that for once I counted the money before it was locked in the safe and it was short the next morning when the office staff (who were very trustworthy) recounted .I asked them about it and they were very shifty and kept glancing towards her office. I never did fundraising for that school again and have often wondered how much more she skimmed off the top of other good causes.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

Maybe you should complain the government about the current funding levels for schools?

[harderandharder2breathe]

Presumably they don't have extra school fundraisers because parents would moan about being asked for money yet again

As long as they're open about percentages I don't think there's anything wrong with splitting funds raised with the nominated charity and the school

[mouldycheesefan]

If you can afford it, £26 is bugger all really since September to contribute to both the school and other charities.
I am not paying £15k per child per child per year school fees so quite happy to chip in a few pounds here and there.

[KathArtic]

YANBU! Let me guess - its primary school.

The good news is at secondary they don't want anything from you at all!!

[Sadik]

I do see what you're saying, though for me it's the other way around.

I'm always happy to donate to school if they ask for funds. But if I'm going to give to charity, I have certain organisations I support, and I'm less inclined to send for ANOther random charity.

So I'd also be irritated if school conflated the two.

[cookieswirls]

The school are stating in the letters a percentage will be kept for school funds

[MilkTwoSugarsThanks]

I get you OP.

You wish the school would do separate fundraising for the school and not tack it on to (eg) Children in Need. Yes?

Bertrand - I think the bake sale has already been organised, it's just that the OP doesn't think it's clear who the money is for.