Victorian AIBU

[HairsprayBabe]

Inspired in part by the chimney sweep thread and catching up with the Victorian Slum on iPlayer!

AIBU that my husband won't buy a elephant's foot umbrella stand he thinks it is cruel! I think he is talking nonsense!

AIBU to give the baby (6mths) opium in her milk I think she is teething and won't stop screaming, Mrs Brown downstairs swears by it but I am not sure?

AIBU to send DT(7) out selling posey's at the market? DD(12) normally goes but she has just got a job cleaning the underneath of a cotton jenny in a factory. With two of them they could bring twice as much in and I could finally pay of the tick in the shop!

[elephantoverthehill]

Excited I already have her hair woven into a brooch. I wear it on the centre of my collar. Thank you for your advice only two months to go then, but D uncle isn't looking to chipper, so I may be 'Back to Black'.

[ZackyVengeance]

im in a bad way.....i have been in mourning for 9 months and my son has told me he is getting married. what do I do? I can't find a dress or hat in black that befits a wedding?

[MrHannahSnell]

DP is a soldier based in Brighton. His regiment has been ordered to Edinburgh. As we are not married, the Army won't provide transport for me and 4 DCs. Can any MNers put us up overnight while we're walking up there? (Really happened. It took her 5 weeks!)

[whogrewoutoftheterribletwos]

Wibu to put a touch of arsenic in dh's tea? I've heard it can help in the bedroom. Does anyone have experience of this?

[eyespydreams]

This is maybe my favourite thread eva (rubs to iPlayer).

AIBU to loosen my corset? 17 children and a diet of bread and lard are making it feel quite constrictive what with bending down to light the range, hang up 8 million items of white lace edged underclothes on wash day, scrub stone floors etc (plus step, OBVS, as not a total slattern). But DH likes the effect and I know I should obey!

[eyespydreams]

RUNS to iPlayer, I don't know, the lingo of today

[Dizzybintess]

AIBU in wishing to visit Dr Joseph Mortimer Granville my DH has not given me a good seeing to since 1862 and he is accusing me of suffering with hysteria.
I hear the granvilles hammer does the job very nicely.
Either that or I need to take a lover.
I hear the queens son is a bit of a goer!

[Dizzybintess]

AIBU in wanting my family to support me. I became pregnant due to a dalliance with the boy next door and sadly he died of consumption the day before we were due to wed.
They are now saying I defiled the sanctity of marriage and must go and give birth in the workhouse. Which is 35 miles away and it's December.

[Excited101]

Who are you mourning Zacky? Perhaps it's time for purple? More appropriate wedding attire choices that way. Or look to the good Queen for black wedding inspiration, her way with some black lace is quite something

[Excited101]

I mean look how even though she is still in deep mourning for Albert, she can attend the happy occasion of her child's wedding in full black!

[HairsprayBabe]

I am so angry with DH he has just got him self arrested for smashing up all the machines in the local cotton mill with his mates! Apparently they are worried that progress will lower their wages! Calling them selves Ludities or some such nonsense?! It is all well and good having principles but we have mouths to feed and I do not want to end up in the work house!

Anyway under these circumstances WIBU to LTB we only have 4 DC atm and I'm sure if I relocate and pretend I am a widow I could remarry.

[Andrewofgg]

A number of my friends - some of them men - have been suggesting that women should be allowed to vote - can these unfortunate people not be offered some help for this mania?

[Wookiecookies]

YABVU not to listen to and obey your husband. He knows better, you just do not have the mental acumen to go against his superior intellect. Now, go get out Mrs Beeton dear and be sure to get to work lovingly preparing him a wonderful supper, by means of an apology for not deferring to his rightful position as the master of your household.

[Wookiecookies]

I hear mock turtle soup is very good for his manly constitution and will certainly aid his enjoyment when it comes to private bedroom matters.

[Wookiecookies]

Oh and FGS dear, opium is a well known method for soothing the teething baby, why let your little one suffer in this way? if baby is calm, you can attend without delay to your husbands most pressing needs.

[Niggit]

AIBU to recommend the use of mercury for women's problems? During my confinement with my 12th and last child, I had a lump of something come down and hang between my legs. I spent the money my 9 year old earned selling posies on a visit to the apothecary who recommended shoving rags soaked in the stuff up there, and yesterday the whole thing just came away. The rags and the lump, that is.
Mind you, I don't feel entirely myself now...

[EveOnline2016]

My dd hasn't started her periods aged 14 I'm really worried that nobody will marry her.

[Wookiecookies]

Oh EVE

At least there are service jobs for such unfortunate spinsters.

[Wookiecookies]

Eve pergaps Niggit could recommend a mercurial tincture that may be of benefit to your DD? Also, how godly is she? The latter is very important to ensure good grace and the deliverance of blessed infants to her bosom.