Hi - first time poster, long time lurker.
I'm 7mths pregnant with our first, and work full time - lots of hours though I'm trying to get this under control for the last two months of pregnancy. I'm planning on working pretty close to my due date to spend as much maternity leave with the baby as I can.
DH has decided to come with me to all antenatal appointments, which has been really lovely - he is pretty flexible at his work. We're having to have a few extra appointments at the moment to check on a few things with the baby, these are precautions rather than anyone actually thinking anything is seriously wrong.
We have been offered a few appointments with things that clash with my work. If they clash with something that I can move, I will move it. But there are some work things that have been booked for ages and that no-one else could stand in for - mainly speaking events that are dependent on my particular role, which no-one else does. So cancelling them would mean an entire event was cancelled for maybe 50-100 people.
DH thinks I am being hugely unreasonable when I ask for appointments to fit around these few events. He sees it as me always choosing to put work ahead of my health, or the health of the baby. He thinks I should take the first appointment offered. My perspective is that if I was told that it was an urgent medical appointment, I would cancel my work things, but I don't see that there's any harm in asking for non-urgent appointments to be made around work commitments so that I'm not letting people down.
To be fair to DH, this is in the context of him telling me for months to slow down, which I only just now feel able to do, so he's probably already wound up.
Fully prepared to be told that I am being unreasonable, I genuinely can't decide whether it's me or him, but I'm getting annoyed at being constantly told off about this. Would be interested to hear what others think.
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calmingthoughts · 12/10/2016 16:44
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