Who is BU, settle this disagreement (food related)

[Tryingtostayyoung]

DH and I have one DD who is 3 and a half.
When she was younger she used to eat ANYTHING, I was definitely smug at how unfussy she was with food, she would eat and enjoy anything I would make us for dinner, this has all changed very slowly over the last year. We are now at a point where I will openly admit I am making an entirely separate meal for her Every. Single. Night. She will not eat ANY meat apart from an occasional sausage or chicken nuggets.

So here is the AIBU. I have a very relaxed approach to this, I don't get wound up or let it frustrate me, I just make her a different dinner to us. I will admit that I have given up on trying coax her into trying our dinners etc because I just feel like naturally as she gets older she will just start eating more things. However this does now pose a problem if we go to someone's house for dinner as she will not even try other things.
DH approach is to make her atleast TRY what it is we are eating, never ever force her to eat anything but tell her that point blank she will not have anything else until she atleast has a few mouthfuls of everything on her plate to see if she likes it.

Who's right?!

[fuzzywuzzy]

DC1 was like this as a toddler she'd eat anything and as she got older became mega fussy.

I have a rule that you try whateverhas been cooked, because it's rude to the person who cooked to turn down food without trying it.

DC1 is teen now and wolfs everything down. The try everything rule did lead to her quickly changing her mind about lots of foods she'd otherwise look at and go 'no I don't eat that'.

Once a friend made chocolate brownie and DC1 refused on the grounds she 'didn't eat that' when I suggested she at least try as friend had made them especially for her. I ended up having to stop her eating the entire plateful and in future it was a good example when she refused food just by looking at it.

I never force DC to eat food tho I don't want food to be an issue.

[BingBongBingBong]

I put the food on their plate and if they don't eat it that is tough. I try not to make it into a 'just try this' session because then they're getting attention for it. If they do eat something they wouldn't before then I don't even mention it even though inside I'm like 'thank God!' DS is almost 3 and was like your DD OP, used to eat anything and everything. Now he goes through fussy phases but they really are just phases. Neither your or your husbands approach is wrong but whatever you do I think you have to stick together and both do the same.

[Thatsmeinthecorner2016]

We have the agreement with DD. Try the food first, then decide. But she has to try.