School want DS2 to see a paediatrician, AIBU to think this is unfair?

[Inferno48]

DS1 is Autistic so I've been through the paediatrician appointments etc with him and he has 1 on 1 support at school.

DS2 (Just turned 3) started in the school nursery on Friday, he goes a total of 3 hours a day and it was his second day today. He has never attended a pre-school or similar setting before starting at the nursery.

When I picked him up today the SENCO who I know very well as DS1 is at the same school asked me what I thought about them referring DS2 to see a paediatrician. I asked why as he is completely different to his brother; has good communication, is extremely confident and plays alongside other children. There reasons were that he gets extremely upset if they pull him away from something he wants to play with and they have noticed his play is repetitive at nursery so they think that he needs 1 on 1 support.

He's been there a total of 6 hours and it's come as quite a shock to me so I may be thinking unreasonably but AIBU to think that considering he has never attended a similar setting before and has been there a total of 6 hours this judgement has come too quickly?

[Babymamamama]

Do it. If only to eliminate the query.

[Minisoksmakehardwork]

I would accept the referral and hope it comes to nothing. We have massive concerns about ds1 and his behaviour impacts us hugely at home but he is fine at home. Our family worker, after meeting dts and I in our home a couple of times turned and asked 'has anyone mentioned dd2 to you at all?". Now as far as we are concerned, dd2 can be a handful but fairly typical for her age, if at the lower end of the development bracket. However, given that we are fighting to get our concerns about ds1 taken seriously, if someone jumps in with wanting to look at dd2, we are going to let them. If nothing else they can say no, she's fine. But worst case scenario, someone other than us is driving her needs forward and they might get taken more seriously.

[GlitteryFluff]

I'm fighting for help for my DS.
If anyone was offering help I'd be jumping on it.
If everything's ok -great, if not the the help has started.

[Minisoksmakehardwork]

*impacts at home, fine at school

[hazeyjane]

I don't know if it is the same in other settings, but I am a 1-1 in a preschool and in our setting it would be impossible for me to be used in any other way than as a support for my 1-1 child (unless they are ill on a particular day) - I support the child and write their learning journal, and fill in a communication book of everything we have done that day. On top of this I meet professionals and work alongside them with the parents, and the setting has to provide evidence that I am fulfilling my duties as a 1-1 in order to secure funding.

I hope that if your son needs some extra support that it will be good support and be beneficial to him.

[OneInEight]

Accept the referral. it will be ages before any appointment comes through and if, when it does, issues are no longer there then you can simply cancel.