does your partner /dh worry about their weight /size ?

[mrsfuzzy]

there is a thread on here today about women and size but what about men ? why is the onus on women to look a certain way [age old i know] but when did men get the go ahead to 'inflict' their various shapes and sizes on us, but for us to angst over every imperfection ? seems unfair imo.

Dh has started to worry about his weight as part of his midlife crisis he's 46.

His weight is actually OK for his height but he has slim arms and legs and a larger middle. He has started running 2/3 times a week but struggles with technique for ab exercise.

All the men in my friendship group think about their weight and diet.

Yes my DH watches his weight. His dad had a heart attack very young so DH has always been extra cautious with being healthy

Not particularly he is not over weight, he is very fit and active, does a manual job outside so he doesn't need to 'worry'- he recently went to a reunion with his old sports team (all in their 50s/60s ) and he looked the 'fittest' by miles - I don't worry about my weight either - even though I could do with losing a couple of stones and doing a lot more exercise . I know I should lose weight to be healthier but I do find some women are obsessed with what they 'look' like rather than how healthy their bodies are.

DH really isn't bothered about his weight. He's quite big at the moment and has commented that he could do with watching it but he won't obsess over it at all, he'll just cut back a bit.

His parents are both weight obsessed however. They're constantly on different diets and are both now very skinny after low carbing. Great if they're happy, but the way they go on and on and on about it I can't see that they are.

I think that's why DH and SIL don't give a fuck if they're a bit bigger, they've had enough of weight and diets from their parents.

I think men worry about it just as much as women do but it's not seen as manly to talk about it.

My DP is constantly on some diet or another and he isn't a single lb overweight.
His father is overweight and I think as he gets older himself he is worried he'll become overweight like his dad.

Dh does, he's 6 foot with skinny legs but has a largish tummy and moobs. Very self conscious of it. Goes on healthy eating bouts, loses weight then slips up. He'll get there eventually.

Plenty of men 'watch' their weight, or train to achieve a particular look.

The difference is that for most men (not all, of course), body image is separate to their self-esteem.

Men aren't primarily valued for their appearance the way women are.

My OH used to be very overweight (I did too, but not as much) and he's very conscious of his weight and takes lots of positive steps to manage it (lots of gym and sport, eats well). We encourage each other and it helps as we both understand how it feels to be struggling with weight issues. A number of his male friends are similar - previously overweight and now at a much healthier weight - and all openly discuss their progress and feelings about weight. Before I met OH I definitely felt that weight was a 'female' thing but not any more. It's very refreshing.