To think this is disgusting?

[Iwasjustabouttosaythat]

BIL visits. BIL gets toothbrush from bathroom and wanders around living room brushing teeth. BIL then goes over to kitchen sink to spit/rinse mouth. It's open plan so we get to see him spitting in our kitchen sink.

AIBU to think you just wouldn't do this in someone else's home?

[BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington]

Wouldn't bother me. One sink is much the same as the next.

[Iwasjustabouttosaythat]

Tik, that stuff is fine. What wouldn't be fine is if he dried himself off naked in the living room while I'm trying to watch tv, or slept/whatever else in my kitchen sink. There's a time and place for everything, surely.

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

Ugh, that's not pleasant, especially if he doesn't rinse it out after. Also depends on how good an aim he has - any spray, and that's a no-no in the kitchen sink. Yuk!

[TikTakTok]

We have toothbrushes in our bathrooms upstairs and another brush each in our downstairs utility room so we can brush our teeth when we need to throughout the day without going upstairs. We are spitting into the utility sink and I've never thought about it being gross.

[Iwasjustabouttosaythat]

Way to miss the point, Paul...

[TikTakTok]

I wouldn't do it myself but I can't see a problem with it. 🤔

I guess he is using your towels to dry himself after he showers.... Is that gross? ..and hopefully he only sleeps in the bed. 🙄

It's best not to think about these things too much.

[KoalaDownUnder]

YANBU!

That's rude and disgusting.

Mumsnet is a truly parallel universe sometimes. Then again, it is AIBU...I am sure that if you'd posted that you'd done this in your brother's house, you would've got ripped to shreds for being 'vile'.

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

So would you happily brush and spit in someone else's house? I would feel so rude doing that!

You don't want people brushing their teeth in your house? That's fucking weird.

[kaputt]

I roam and brush, go out in the garden sometimes. Sometimes use the kitchen sink to spit/rinse, and sometimes some fucker's run into the bathroom while I'm roaming so I have to.

Wouldn't do it as a guest with friends but probably would in my sister's house and definitely would at my mums.

I will now have to reconsider though in case family-members-in-law are mortally upset by it

[Memoires]

I'd just ask him not to spit in my sink please.

[BewitchedBotheredandBewildered]

It's the wandering around brushing, number one no-no, why? ffs, in someone else's house! Fucking yuck!

And then spitting in the kitchen! Do it in private, it ain't pretty.

It's the someone else's house is the point, what you do at home/did while you were growing up at home is all fine.

[treaclesoda]

Ooh, normally on mumsnet I'm thinking everyone else is very precious but in this case I'm with the OP, I think it's just a bit...yuck. I know there is no logical reason for that, I know there are germs in the kitchen sink but I still find it bleurgh.

I've never seen anyone brush their teeth in the kitchen though. If that's fairly standard practice then I'm obviously the one who's out of step. Still don't fancy it much though. I rarely even wash my hands in the kitchen as I don't even like doing that because it just feels 'wrong'.

[wowowowow]

YANBU - really tacky to walk around cleaning teeth (whoever's toothbrush he uses - has he got no manners!) and vile to spit in to your kitchen sink.

What an uncouth git he is.

[GreatFuckability]

until I was 15 the only sink in my house was the kitchen sink. we all brushed and spat out the toothpaste there. I'm failing to see the issue.

[AnotherPrickInTheWall]

A lot of people brush their teeth in the kitchen. It's an old fashioned thing. I don't ,but it's hardly disgusting IMO.

[celeste83]

YANBU. Its a bit rude to go doing that in someone elses house.

[VioletBam]

YANBU DH does this and I hate that....so I'd be horrified by a visitor doing it.

Some people are astoundingly unaware and bad mannered.

[FastWindow]

Changed my mind. Yanbu. If he started in the bathroom, stay there and finish the job.

[FastWindow]

Yep a YABU from me. Your BIL is odd for wandering, for sure, but that wasn't the question.

The kitchen sink entertains far more yuck than toothpaste spit. Won't someone please think of the chicken/mince rinsers?

[AddToBasket]

There is no logic to minding this. There isn't a hygiene issue at all.

YABU

[ohtheholidays]

Disgusting,why would you do that and in someone elses home.That's a real lack of respect or at least normal healthy boundaries.

None of our 5DC would do that and they're children and 2 of our DC are asd,so I really can't understand an adult doing it.

[friendlyfoxes]

They can't brush them very thoroughly

[PurpleTango]

Crikey all of my kids do this every morning. They get their toothbrushes from the bathroom upstairs, I start yelling that they are going to miss the bus, they come down toothbrush still in mouth and spit into the kitchen sink. Still I'm so glad they brush. Imagine them going to school with stinky morning breath? They wouldn't have any friends! Toothpaste is easily washed away......YABU

[YellowOfficeBlock]

Wouldn't bother me