Being induced tomorrow and husband in pub

[NorthernMonkey01]

So after 8 years of trying inc ivf, ops, miscarriages you name it we finally had some amazing luck and fell pregnant. For various reasons I'm due to be induced tomorrow and dh has gone to the pub to meet a group of guys in a longstanding arrangement. I don't mind him going for a bit (he said he'd only be a couple of hours) so we'd still have our 'last night ' together. He left at 5:30 and has just bounced in pretty much pissed. (No thought about what we'd do to get to the hospital if I actually started labour which is a distinct possibility given what's been happening the past couple of days)
I'm sodding livid and he can't see what the problem is. He said I could have come to the pub.... Yes I could apart from the fact that I can hardly walk and am in agony so the last thing I want to do is be in a bloody pub. So having a rant here, aibu or should I just suck it up?

[CurlyBlueberry]

I'm 39+3

YANBU

[Princesspinkgirl]

Good luck op hope all is well today and congrats in advance

[trafalgargal]

Good luck for today

It was a really stupid thing to do but as someone says maybe he was nervous as he doesn't have form for this sort of thing so it may be better to look at the big picture and let it go (knowing you have the moral higher ground) rather than have the memory of today including a massive row. You've waited a long time for today- make all of it lovely and focus on today and not yesterday. Don't let it taint today.

[AppleSetsSail]

I'd be furious but try to put it behind you. Good luck today!

[Ilovenannyplum]

He's an idiot. End of.

Good luck for today, I hope it goes well!

[DontDeadOpenInside]

Good luck OP, don't forget to squeeze his fingers really hard

[Hassled]

Good luck today :). Agree that the DH is a fool, but today is not the day to thrash it out. His foolishness can be dealt with later.

[blueskyinmarch]

Apostrophes I get that but I rather suspect in her DH’s mind he was focussed on ‘induction and baby tomorrow’ rather than ‘DW could go into labour right now'. I know why she is cross but hopefully it won’t have come to that and they can put it behind them. He has come home at 10.30 not 3.30 in the morning. He will probably be fine this morning. She said he was pissed not incoherent and puking everywhere. He made a mistake, people do. Hopefully he will realise he was an idiot this morning and make it up to the OP by being the best, most attentive, birth partner.

[Ellioru]

Just keep it in mind when you're in labour and wanting to throw random objects at him

[PollyCoddle]

I know that I'd be really pissed off if I were you, but hopefully you slept well (as well as you can at this stage) and are over it now.

You may well have one more night waiting for the gel to take effect anyway. And if you go into labour get a taxi or someone else to drive.

I hope the birth goes really well.

[ApostrophesMatter]

For those who don't see a problem. Consider that OP will need to get to hospital and he may well still be over the drink drive limit. That's a problem.

[blueskyinmarch]

I can absolutely see why you are angry and pissed off with your DH.

On the other hand i can see how it has happened. DH is in the pub thinking ‘Shit, tomorrow DW will be in labour, we will have a baby, our life will change’ then someone says ‘another drink’ and he thinks ’I probably shouldn’t but, fuck it, yes, i may not get out for a another drink for a very long time’.

I think in the cold light of day he will probably realise his mistake. I hope you can both put it behind you.

Good luck for today. Report back later once your squidgy bundle has arrived!

[cdtaylornats]

If he told his mates they would all have bought him drinks. He would be the centre of attention. Peer pressure would have kept him there.

[orangebird69]

Me neither waitrose...

[MollyTwo]

Yanbu what a selfish arsehole! Anyway hope all goes well with you today and congrats

[Racheyg]

Wow some harsh words I don't feel the name cunt justifies it. He just didn't think how special last night was for you.

Look at the bigger picture, you are going to have a beautiful baby and a amazing family life.

I hope all goes well today op. Just make dh do the first nappy

[blinkowl]

Good luck for today :)

[SurfBored73]

BlackSwan

"Your DH will run a very distant second, if that. He's being selfish, but he's really not that important in the scheme of things."

Really? The baby's father isn't that important? Wow, bet you make your partner feel like a valued member of the family.

Good luck OP.

[maras2]

Best wishes from me too. and lots of . Hope that pisshead DH steps up and makes himself useful today.

[NoncommittalToSparkleMotion]

I'd be pissed. Yanbu.

But Baby's First Pub Crawl will be EPIC.

Best wishes

[mathanxiety]

nice to know I'm not being a mentalist for once

Is this just an off the cuff remark or does someone consider you a mentalist/overreacting, etc?

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow

[foursillybeans]

No, that's a horrid thing to do to you the night before the baby is coming. A possibility could be that he is extremely nervous himself and is panicking? That's not a great reason though. But don't let it ruin your own evening and steal your much needed rest. Hope all goes well and speedily for you tomorrow and your LO is in your arms very soon.

[blinkowl]

But - like others say you have bigger fish to fry tomorrow.

Put this away for another time, and focus on practical steps to make your induction go smoothly.

[Normandy144]

There's not much you or he can do about it now. Get a good nights kip and focus on tomorrow. Sounds like he doesn't have form for this behaviour so I'd register my annoyance and then move on. Don't let it linger, it's not worth it. You'll have a newborn soon and that's when you both need to be really nice to each other.

[blinkowl]

DH is a pretty heavy drinker usually but even so he stopped going out to drink about 2 weeks before my due date.

YANBU.