I'm definitely BU - please tell me not to order a drink

[Hiphopopotamus]

So I'm an alcoholic. I was doing well but have had a pretty massive relapse in the last few months. I'm back on the wagon now and I'm nearly 2 weeks sober.

I'm currently sitting in a restaurant waiting for my partner to finish work. Restaurants alone are a big trigger place for me as they are places I used to drink a lot - I never felt comfortable in pubs alone but it felt acceptable if I had a plate of food in front of me. I'm sitting here with a Diet Coke when all I want to do is order a bottle of wine and get stuck in. Please tell me how unreasonable I'm being.

[MaryMargaret]

High five!!!

[PuntasticUsername]

Well done, OP!

[Hiphopopotamus]

I've just read the rest of these responses and they've made me well up! Thanks all of you - it really means a lot to know there were so many people behind me with this.

[AtAt]

Congratulations! Just remember if the temptation comes again, and there is no one in RL to help, you have an army of MNetters behind you

[Eminado]

Well done OP!!!!

[prettyfiestyforasmallone]

Well done!! My dad died 3 weeks ago due to alcoholism it has left a massive impact on me so well done for two weeks sober ☺

[LaContessaDiPlump]

Well done op - that took serious willpower.

[limitedperiodonly]

Well done

[ThoraGruntwhistle]

Excellent work OP. You did absolutely the right thing. If the place you're in is making it more difficult, go somewhere new.

[Iambubbles86]

Hiphop well done. I Dont even know u but I am very proud of you if that's the right phrase!!

[chinam]

Well done, op. One day at a time. Take care.

[BrendaFurlong]

Oops hadn't refreshed the screen. Well done OP.

[ChazsBrilliantAttitude]

Great news - good choice

[angielou123]

Oh, you did....well done!

[BrendaFurlong]

Your brain is playing tricks on you.
You are craving the alcohol but you don't really WANT it because you know what effect it will have on you.

Breathe slowly and deeply for one minute (see if you can get down to under 6 breaths in that minute.)

Distract yourself.

Find something else to get that dopamine hit.

It is very hard. You can do it.

(I am in awe of you. My problem is food. I have had a 'bad' day. 2 weeks sober is 2 weeks where you've done what you really want.)

[angielou123]

I would get out of there if I was you.

[YoJesse]

Well done
Stay strong

[blueturtle6]

Sorry missed a page, well done for overcoming temptation

[blueturtle6]

Did you ever see that satc where she forgot her book alone in a restaurant? She sat back in her shades and people watched. Do that and don't order wine. Good luck xx

[Ginkypig]

Well done.

You've just done the hardest thing in the world, youv put your self first before your addiction.

[Wolfiefan]

Well done. I've only just seen this thread. That's an amazing achievement. It's not about the times when you don't want a drink. It's about the times when you really REALLY do. You faced that and didn't cave in.

[TheSockGoblin]

That's really great, well done!

perhaps though in the future it might be wise to try to plan to avoid such triggering places if you feel so vulnerable at this stage in your recovery?

[ginnybag]

Bravo, OP!

I really mean that. I have alcoholics in the family, and they've never, not once, had the strength to do what you just did.

That took steel, and serious will power.

Go meet your partner and somewhere you can have a lovely treat as a reward, and feel genuinely proud of yourself for saying no.

[iMatter]

Well done! Great determination

[amusedbush]

Fantastic, well done! You should be really proud.