AIBU to think this was cheeky? (Train and makeup related)

[hellinabreadbasket]

Dh and I were on a packed commuter train this morning - standing room only. DH opened his newspaper to read- a girl sitting on a seat to the left asked him "would you mind closing your paper as I'm doing my make up and your blocking my light". DH just did it as he didn't really know what to say, and I was out of earshot so sort of missed it. AIBU to be astounded at the cheek??

[JudyCoolibar]

I do hope when you say he opened his newspaper that that means he had it folded back on itself, i.e. he wasn't holding it right open? Because if that had been the case, HWBVVVVVVU.

[hellinabreadbasket]

anne ewww- it's the 'remnants' that make it so yucky isn't it? I've had someone pluck their eyebrows next to me and was finding little eyebrow hairs over my jumper for the rest of the day. Not sure why I find this so distasteful, but it really turns my stomach for some reason

[MrsFogi]

I loathe people doing their make up on public transport - it is a sport that should be restricted to the privacy of people's bedrooms or bathrooms. So, no, yanbu.

[hellinabreadbasket]

judy dear god he was holding a normal sized paper, folded back at waist height- not the times at full spread across his face like he was a dodgy spy out of a bond film

[WorraLiberty]

Why is this a problem? Even with buckets of makeup it would have been 15 minutes max. I don't see why it's cheeky for her ask.

Seriously??

Why is her makeup appliance more important than his paper reading?

[thrillhouse]

I don't really see the problem tbh.

How close was the newspaper to her? Maybe it was wafting her in the face.

[hellinabreadbasket]

Also tondelaya you are aware that they give out free papers on commuter trains - so I think reading a paper isn't exactly unreasonable or knobbish??

[thrillhouse]

As in - I don't see the problem because she wasn't being unreasonable to ask, and he wasn't unreasonable to say no.

And I'll be honest, I think it's pretty rude to take up even more space on crowded public transport by opening a paper...

[WorraLiberty]

He should have said, "Can you help me with this crossword question first"?

Two words - 6 letters and 3 letters.

Clue is 'Daft Bovine'...

[SalemSaberhagen]

I once had a woman paint her TOENAILS next to me on a busy train. I was shocked into silence for a few minutes before asking her if she could stop as the smell was getting down me. She quite happily desisted.


These threads always make me laugh though. Full of posters saying 'I'd have said...' followed by some blunt or offensive comment. No, no you wouldn't have.

[Jengnr]

She asked nicely, if he was bothered he could have said no.

Non issue imo

[TrickyBiscuits]

I quite admire her front actually

[hellinabreadbasket]

thrillhouse read my op- he did indeed shut his paper. And is a folded up newspaper seriously rude compared with a full make up kit?? Should he just stare vacantly into space for the fifty minute commute (no one directly around him was affected - just her "light"

[SalemSaberhagen]

Why are you so bothered by it OP? He obviously wasn't.

[hellinabreadbasket]

Oh and read a kindle on the train - is this now unreasonable- as it must take up at least 30cm of space

[hellinabreadbasket]

salem to be fair I'm not that bothered- it's more that my DH mentioned it when we got off of tbe train and I found it cheeky enough to give us a bit a laugh and wondered if we were alone in being a bit gobsmacked

[Pinkandbluemcdonald5]

To be fair your responses to posters makes it sound that you are quite bothered about it. She asked nicely and your husband was very nice back. Sounds like he didn't want an scene and that is a reason why he didn't tell you until off the train.

[LaraCroftInDisguise]

I quite admire the time efficiency side of it...

I'd never do this, because, if I really cared enough about the way I look to need a full face of make up every day, then I would do it at home. However, if I did do it, I don't think I'd make my choice of venue for it an inconvenience to other people. As in: my need to do make up wouldn't trump the need of others to (in this example) read a paper.

[hellinabreadbasket]

pink ah fair point, it's my first aibu, so am perhaps a little too reactive- although genuinely am a bit that someone would ask for more light to do their make up on a train.

[Pinkandbluemcdonald5]

Helllina, I personally can't imagine being on a train doing my make up and then also asking someone to move due to lighting issues. That is quite self assured of a person. I would have reacted like your husband, but think inside wow!

[EnidButton]

I give no shots about doing make up on the train. Given the choice between 10 minutes extra in bed or offending someone by brandishing lipstick in a public space I know which I'd choose. Perhaps not fill make up for practical purpose but a bit of lipstick, powder and mascara, what's the issue.

Asking someone to stop blocking her light is really cheeky though. Bit of me can't help but admire that level of self assurance.

[EnidButton]

Shits I give no shits.

[DavidPuddy]

I don't think she was unreasonable to ask.

I have also done my make-up on the train before (macara and eyeshadow) when I have had to travel early to another city for meetings.

[DeathStare]

I don't think it was unreasonable to politely ask. He could have said no. I think that there are very few things that it is unreasonable to politely ask for.

If she'd demanded it or been rude or had an attitude if he said no then she would have been unreasonable

[WhisperingLoudly]

Doing make up on the train is revolting. I can't get passed that.