To take 18m old DS to a B.day party DD(3yr) has been invited?? Semi urgent as is today!!

[Eeeek686]

Just had an awful thought that I might be about to BU....

DD(3) has been invited to a party this afternoon in a village hall - no idea about numbers but i know there will be random non-number specific entertainment laid on, and probably food.... all good so far.

Problem is I have an 18m old little boy that will have to come with us as dad works weekends and we have no local help I can leave him with, and it's just occurred to me I might be able to make a bit of a party faux pas and was hoping to guage opinion??

Host knows what OH does to mean he works weekends I think but may have forgotten so may not be expecting us all.... no point asking as she will say it's fine anyway.... gah!!

Don't really know why I'm posting, just hope someone can Please reassure me it will be fine?! Would you be peed off in these circs!?

[PolitelyDisagree]

I bet the host will say it's ok (or has already said it ok) but I think an 18 month could be really irritating. I'd try and not let him join in if they are playing games. It depends on what they do. If he is being difficult or noisy then you could take him outside for a bit. Bribe him if you have too.

[happypoobum]

Yes! I think the same thing happened at her 4th birthday too!

To be fair, the village hall was also where the playgroup was, so the children felt at home there, but I now feel I must have had MUG tattooed on my forehead.

When they got older they had parties at home, when you really would not want all the parents loitering, and when older still, we would take a select few out to lunch/cinema etc

I feel most aggrieved in hindsight but didn't at the time!

[Katedotness1963]

Younger siblings always came to parties we had for our boys. Never bothered me as long as the parents were staying too. We always made up extra party bags and wee ones don't each much from the birthday tea to make a difference.

We did have one party when a mum dropped off three extra siblings. One wasn't potty trained and I spent a good bit of the afternoon looking out dry clothes for him. Then she finally came back and wasn't happy to see him drinking pop, but had left no instructions in her rush to dump them and flee.

[Eeeek686]

Just to report back - DS was absolutely welcome! He definitely wasn't the only sibling by a long chalk, he got to join in the games, was given food, and even had a party bag which I have already eaten most of!

Think the best thing was to let the host know so thanks everyone for jogging my clearly impolite memory into doing that... other than that, all was well!

Thanks again!

[NicknameUsed]

That's great. when DD was little and I had a couple of soft play parties the only parents who brought siblings asked or paid them in and fed them separately, so it was never a problem for me.

By MN standards the parents of DD's year were well extremely well behaved when it came to party etiquette.

[starry0ne]

Great Glad all sorted.