To take his phone?

[basketweaver2012]

My DS 12 has his own phone, renewable sim deal which I pay for every month. It doesn't cost a fortune and once he's used his data etc that's it till next month. He understands and is fine with this.
He now has a new girlfriend and is spending hours on the phone to her at a time. ( I can't even get a text back usually!)
I've set him up with whatsapp and told him to call using this so he isn't using his minutes, so he knows I'm fine with him chit chatting to her.
we have a rule that no phones or iPads allowed in the bedrooms over night, I tell both DCs that I will take them downstairs and charge them in the kitchen for the next day.
DS has said the last few nights his phones downstairs and is fine for charge so I've left it at that, however this morning I went into his room to wake him up and see the phone popping out from under his pillow.
Ive then checked his messages and see he's been texting said girl until almost midnight, having gone to bed at 9!!!
I've checked on both DCs when I go up so he's obviously heard me coming and pretended to be asleep but I'm really cross that he's lied.
But then I do understand he's giddy and probably wants to be chatting to her but he's still lied to me to get what he wants which is his phone!
The worst part is that I have skimmed these messages to make sure everything is above board from both ends and see that he is regular swearing in his texts.
'fuck' appears quite often and I know he's doing it to appear cool or whatever but I'm so disappointed that he's speaking like this and also like this to a gir!!
I've told him that he should never speak to other people like this and it's not cool and he's making himself look an idiot and that her parents wouldn't be happy if they were to read these messages.
Hes the sweetest kid usually and I can't understand why he's acting like this!
Ive taken the phone off him and I can see his gutted.
I think it needs to be gone a month or so along with other decides, but I'm not sure if I'm being too harsh?

[basketweaver2012]

He has a set limit of mins 500 and unlimited texts which is why i set up what's app so he could call on wifi
Once he goes over that's it til next month but he's only done that once and now self manages with an data app

[HappyNevertheless]

You are making excellent point te the swearing basket
It's amazing how we seem to accept things from teenagers that we would never accept from an adult.

[BertrandRussell]

"And in no way am I teaching my DC that women are little flowers. Im a single mum working full time in a job most men would shy away from. I teach them to be independent and that they are responsible for themselves and that sometimes live is bloody tough and sometimes its great when we make it happen.
Respect is earnt!"

I apologise. Your initial post seemed to me to indicate that you thought the swearing was more serious because it was directed to a girl. And subsequent posts from others talking about teaching "respect for women" seemed to support that view. I'm glad I was wrong.

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

I lost my first post! I'll try again...

Ds leaves hid phone on the landing at 9,30pm,if he doesn't he loses it for 48 hours.

A month is ridiculous IMO, save that for when you need to really put your foot down not just with he's pushing the boundaries a bit.

Ignore the swearing, how he speaks to his girlfriend/mates isn't anything to do with you.