To be shitting myself about this ?!

[Majorlyscared1993]

I have created an account in mild desperation- need to hear that everything is going to be ok!

I will keep it short as possible

I gave birth to ds in December 2015- birth was somewhat traumatic so ever since I have been quite satisfied that he will be my first and last.

Have been using condoms with dh since the birth

I have had a feeling inside me... Like I knew something was different. I did a pregnancy test and it immediately read positive. So I did another... And another... You get the point.

So from my rough calculations this baby would be due mid December.

So the AIBU.. Is it U to be very scared about having two children so close together? I feel very lucky that there is obviously a plan for me to have more than one child and I am glad that my son will have a play mate. I feel very blessed to be pregnant once again, I am just frightened as to logistically how I manage with two small children!

[LHReturns]

Oh wow OP - congratulations!

I only have one toddler (want another) so cannot provide advice - but I know someone who had a baby in September AND the following August. They are both girls and in the SAME school year!!

They call this Irish Twins, I think?

[lanbro]

18 months between mine but planned. Hard work in the early days but they're so close. Dd2 potty trained herself before her 2nd birthday and at 2 and 4 now they are best buds and into all the same things so play really nicely together most of the time! There'll be 2 school years between them so dd2 will get some special mummy time when dd1 goes off to school in September, really looking forward to that!

[mishmash1979]

I have a 13m gap between my 3rd and 4th and didn't find out I was pregnant till 19 weeks (bf'ing and mini pill so no periods) . It was very hard early on but I quickly got them napping and eating at the same time and before long (3m) it was like tiring shoelaces. Yes u will be tired and yes you will spend forever trying to get ready to go anywhere but when you see them play together properly for the first time all the hard work will melt away. My boys are 4&5 now and they are nest friends. They will not do anything without the other and I have spent hours watching them play their little games and listening to them giggle together in bed at night. It is just the best feeling and I hope they will always be so close.

[zznotxy]

It will be great. My exW and her sister were 11 months apart ( that's Catholics for you :) ) . Very happy family, and why not. Enjoy it, celebrate it.

[Cornishclio]

17months between my two DD. Pregnancy no 2 unplanned- bf is not a contraceptive! I won't lie the early days were tough. Trying to bf a baby and potty train a toddler at the same time is hard work and there was not a lot of sibling love initially. It is really like having 2 babies. You do need to have coping mechanisms though and my 2nd was FF from 6 weeks unlike my elder DD who I bf until 9 months.

It gets easier though and as they grew older they always had a playmate until they got into their teens when they hated each other but I think that may have happened with a bigger age gap anyway. They were very competitive with each other. Now adults they get on very well. I am sure you will cope just fine.

[Majorlyscared1993]

Wow! It's great to know I'm not the only one and you come out the other end of it all! Thank you so much for your kind words I'm more excited about it now for sure

[MatildaTheCat]

Congratulations! There is 11 months between myself and my brother. Poor mum had her hands full as we have another older brother who was 3 at the time I was born.

Just one thing you might want to consider, that your elder baby really is still a baby at 12 months and might be extremely jealous. My db was massively jealous of me and gave my parents hell for a loooong time. TBH I don't know that they handled it that well and didn't allow him to stay a baby for as long as he wanted. There are multiple stories of his terrible toddlerhood which, with the benefit of sites like MN, was him trying to regain their attention. He has an intensely competitive personality which I reckon is probably a result of this.

Hope that doesn't sound insensitive or patronising. Enjoy your babies.

[LavenderRains]

15 month gap here. Now both in their 20's
It's truly wonderful. Of course you get bad days, but seeing them grow up together is so lovely. They still look out for each other now.
congratulations you will enjoy it!

[Quietlifenotonyournelly]

Firstly, congratulations .
Don't worry op things will be fine, I remember thinking the same before DS 2 was born, a whole 12 months and ten days after DS 1, then the same again I had DD 1 a mere two years after !
I'm pleased to say that they are all in thier early 20s now and all had a good, happy childhood. not even going to mention DS 3 I had last year