I might be being exceptionally naive however have just had a very bizarre conversation with a friend and am now questioning if I am being stupid or if she really is being unreasonable.
15 years ago I worked for a company that had several sites around the world but their main production and research facility was uk based. 2 factories, 1 in London and 1 in the Midlands. I worked in the Midlands office but spent most of my time working with colleagues in our London office. Several used to be at our site at least 2 nights a week. Here was a group of us who used to go out for meals/drinking and dancing in the local club. Mix of men and women, single and married. Nothing ever more than friends having a good night out.
I left the company many years a go but have always stayed in touch with A couple of the guys from the London office. Every so often they are still in my local city for meetings etc and will text or call to see if I am free. We all have spouses/partners and all have kids. Today I received such a message from one of the guys.
My female friend has now messages asking if I am free on the same night as my male friend is in town so I have told her I'm not as I have plans with male friend. She has basically accused me of being a Trollope and said one/other of us is obviously interested in sex as that is the only reason we would meet up and she is disgusted my partner has agreed to me going out.
My partner has never met this guy. however I have talked about him, he has rung when dp is about, dp is fully aware of the friendship and the history and it has never occurred to him to be jealous or suspicious.
Dp is going away for a weekend on June with a mix of male and female friends, I am not going as it is related to his hobby which quite frankly bores me to tears! It would never occur to me to stop him or be suspicious.
So Aibu to think my friend has lost the plot and that men and women can actually be platonic friends??
AIBU?
to think men and woman can be just friends?
wheresthel1ght · 19/04/2016 21:20
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After spending most of my adult life in the company of men, I'd be astounded to be told that I couldn't just be friends with any of them.
I have a few female friends, a couple of gay friends of both sexes and loads of male friends. The friend I trust most in the world and who I would turn to if something terrible happened is a man. A married man at that.
(Although, I have to admit, my very very best friend is probably my dog 
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I did a male-dominated subject at uni, worked a decade in a male-dominated field, and am currently doing a male-dominated hobby.
Unsurprisingly, a large number of my friends are male (I'm married).
It's never really been a problem for me; but since I've joined MN, I have learned the term 'emotional affair', and struggled with knowing the difference between that and having a close male friend. To be fair, I'm not fantastic with social cues and norms at the best of times.
I dunno, I think if you asked in Relationships you'd get a different answer.
Certainly, my DM is very big on, 'But what does DH think about you talking to him/going there/drinking that?' 
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