Is the bride the exgf?

[NZmonkey]

AIBU to think its very rude to ask on a Facebook photo of the wedding on the brides page if she is the grooms ex or someone new?
DH doesn't see why this is a problem and is still mad at me 24 hours later for being insulted and embarrassed by it and deleting it.

[NinaSimoneful]

Thanks NZ
(sorry for the sidetrack)

[NZmonkey]

Thank you to the last few posters they are some great stories And I definitely feel better that nothing like that happened. Phew. Think I should start counting myself lucky if anything.

[Molehillfromamountain]

Thumb that made me chuckle. Reminded me of DH, who when asked by the registrar as we registered our sons birth what date our wedding anniversary was gave the date of his first marriage he was mortified.

[gincamelbak]

At DH'S cousin's wedding, i wrote in the guest book a lovely message to "Bride and Groom's Brother - congratulations! Etc etc".

I had a mental blank and got the wrong names. And realised as i was signing my name so made my name up too in order to cover up the name mistake.

I didn't mean it. My brain made me do it.

[AcrossthePond55]

I think I'd be a bit more concerned at why my new husband was still upset about you deleting a comment ^on your own FB page' the day afterward. Unless you tore him a new mudhole about it or something.

Obviously the guy who posted the original comment is, to say the least, a wee bit socially inept…and that's an understatement.

[Molehillfromamountain]

People can be odd with Facebook comments, I recently had a baby and posted a pic of me holding him as he met his big sister for the first time. Somebody wrote "Whose baby is that?"
I didn't delete as I figured others would just read it and think "what a weirdo!"
You are not being U, they are rude and thoughtless.

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

It's a bit fucking rude to do it on the bride's own page where her name is clear to see, I'd say! Slightly different if it had been the groom's page, but really?!

Paul - I have a similar story. My DH's cousin was getting married for the second time, his best man had also been best man at the first wedding (TIP - NEVER DO THIS).
He'd done really well all wedding, but after a few too many beers, it was time for the bride and groom to leave in traditional fashion, so he grabbed the mike and said "And now it's time for the grand exit - congratulations and good luck to Groom and FirstWife'sName!"
shocked silence and then "I mean Secondwife'sname of course"

Apparently he'd been saying to himself all evening "Don't say Groom and FWN, Don't say Groom and FWN", so of course he'd got "Groom and FWN" in his head, hadn't he, and that's what came out of his mouth!

Not sure the second wife ever really forgave him...

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

Songbird awww schucks!

[Cocoabutton]

I think your DH really out to let it go - your reaction was not worth being mad over the next day, surely.

[RudeElf]

PAUL

[EverySongbirdSays]

PaulAnka - you are easily my favourite poster on here.

[Pico2]

If someone genuinely wanted to know the answer to that question, the could have pm'd a mutual friend, asked your DH when they next saw them etc... Unless they were really socially inept, they were just shit stirring.

[NZmonkey]

Thanks to all posters it great to hear everyone's views.
I just don't understand why someone if they were that shall we go with curious didn't just private message DH.

[Treysanatomy]

It's still rude! It's fine that he didn't know if it was ex or someone new but jeez you don't comment and ask

You didn't overreact and you shouldn't feel embarrassed.

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

Muddah it's a cracking take to tell now! NZ take it! If it makes you feel better then go with it

[lborolass]

From your update I'd say it might be a bit tactless of the poster as obviously you may not be the same girl but I don't understand why you're upset about it?

Why is it rude, he's not saying anything negative about you or comparing you in any way with a previous girlfriend. Tbh I think you're totally overreacting, why not have just replied to the comment and said "no, it's me smileyface" or similar

[HeddaGarbled]

Well I can understand you being a bit miffed but as your update suggests it wasn't malicious, you may have over-reacted a little.

However, your new H has no right to be angry with you for deleting a comment from your own FB page. You can delete and/or keep whatever you like.

[NZmonkey]

Nina if a comment is on one of your pphotos or your page you can just click on it and delete. Thankfully

[Bogeyface]

Foot in mouth syndrome. Let it go, not worth getting het up about.

[NZmonkey]

PAUL oh no, is it wrong to say that makes me feel slightly better.

Yes trying to let it go, was just interested if others thought it was very rude.

I also didn't take it out on DH other than to express how I felt. Proceeded to cook the roast meal we were having for dinner do all the washing up and put DSD to bed all as pleasantly as possible. DH is still mad at me this morning though.

[BillSykesDog]

Yeah, from the lastest update it was rather tactless but not really worth getting upset about.

[Ilovetorrentialrain]

'NZ' also I think it reflects badly on the guy who posted the comment but not at all on you.

[NinaSimoneful]

How can you delete someone else's comment?
Misses point

[Ilovetorrentialrain]

Yes I was shocked at the rudeness until I read the latest update. It's still pretty ill advised, and yes I'd have deleted it too but I'd let it go. He's obviously not the brightest of sparks to think that comment is OK.

[MuddhaOfSuburbia]

oh, PAUL



...that's actually a bit funny