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AIBU?

To take alcohol to a baby shower

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Picturesofmatchstickmen · 04/04/2016 19:02

Never been to one before so don't know if it's the done thing! It's around the corner so I'm walking - I thought I'd take some chilled prosecco for everyone but just mentioned it to my friend and she looked at me all disapproving and said you do know it's a baby shower? I don't see the problem, it's not like the baby will get pissed from my breath ffs. It's also on a Saturday evening!

Also, does anyone know is it presents for the baby, or presents for the mum? Or both?

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Postitblue · 04/04/2016 21:41

Take it! The ones I've been to have always had booze. They are pretty zzzzz anyway so alcohol will help you through the 'sock game', 'measure the bump game' etc .... enjoy your fizz

Pinkheart5915 · 04/04/2016 20:30

At my baby shower there was non alcoholic cocktails and fizzy apple juice for me and there was prosecco and cocktails for my friends.

Take it along with you, I'm sure it will be enjoyed.

To answer by our present question at mine I got a mummy to be pamper box and some things for the baby so it was a mix of both. I did get a lovely cake though

rollmeover · 04/04/2016 20:26

Last baby shower I went to I brought a bottle of fizz (I was pregnant so not drinking anyway) as it felt a bit alien not to. Non drivers all had a glass or two and it was fine. The worst that happens is they take it from you on arrival and don't offer you any and just tea!

AnnieHoo · 04/04/2016 20:22

I'd also bring it in a bag and suddenly remember you have it after you've sussed out if it's acceptable or not.

Infact I'd probably just bring it and plonk it on a table.

Or you could call the organiser and say "just wondering, since it's a 4.30 start, do you want us to bring food and drink... ?" Then you'll find out if it's Prosecco affair or a Shloer job.

olympicsrock · 04/04/2016 20:20

I thought it was obligatory! Actually at the ones I have been to it was just like any other party with a choice of wine or non alcoholic drinks. Most people including mums to be had a glass of fizz to toast the new baby.

BrandNewAndImproved · 04/04/2016 20:20

I went to one where my pregnant friends mum filled up dozens and dozens of baby bottles with booze. The drinking games were hilarious and we could only drink out of a bottle.

Thisismyfirsttime · 04/04/2016 20:18

Bring the prosecco in a separate bag. If no-one else brings any or if it's not offered keep it in the bag and quiet about it, if it's offered/ mentioned breezily whip it out, 'of course, I nearly forgot about this!' I wouldn't be bothered if all my friends were going, but if I didn't really know them I wouldn't want to look like a raving alcoholic if they would all consider it odd!

Plateofcrumbs · 04/04/2016 20:16

I'd say everyone having a glass or two of fizz, fine (pregnant friend might partake of a glass too, nothing I hated more when pregnant than other people telling me I couldn't have a drink - I could make up my own mind thanks!). Getting drunk, probably not fine.

Trills · 04/04/2016 20:08

I would. And have.

All the baby showers I've been to have had optional booze.

Picturesofmatchstickmen · 04/04/2016 19:54

I can't check with the mum to be, I gather it's a surprise, I have been given the invite by my cousin, I think its being organised by the sil of the mum to be. I do actually know her, we are friends but not close, but I don't know the girl organising it. There was a mobile number to RSVP but texting or ringing asking about bringing booze makes it seem more of a thing somehow, I was just going to breeze in with it.

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gamerchick · 04/04/2016 19:49

I'd need alcohol to sit through a baby shower.

fruitpastille · 04/04/2016 19:48

I think Prosecco is nice and celebratory for that sort of occasion. I would have half a glass myself if I was the mum to be!

PPie10 · 04/04/2016 19:48

You need to check with the organizer if it's ok. It's not a hen do or that type of get together. And the mom to be might feel a bit left out you don't know. Anyway I wouldn't bring alcohol.

curren · 04/04/2016 19:46

Can't you just check with the woman who's shower it is or the organiser?

I would check only because I can imagine the aibu 'I had a baby shower today and my friends all started drinking. I felt so left out and pissed off'

I have known one to have drink. But most to be alcohol free. It's not hard to double check though.

Strokethefurrywall · 04/04/2016 19:43

I've never been to a shower that didn't include alcohol.
In fact the first one I ever threw for my lovely mate (I was also 22 weeks pregnant) involved a multitude of drinking games and everyone being absolutely twatted.
She wanted a shower that felt more like a bachelorette and that's what we delivered. Happy memories!

Picturesofmatchstickmen · 04/04/2016 19:42

Just checked the invite, starts at 4.30pm, so practically evening, a couple of months ago it would have been dark at that time.

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Alconleigh · 04/04/2016 19:39

Only way to get through it, I'd have thought.

LeaLeander · 04/04/2016 19:33

And the host should be supplying the booze, not the guests, but if there is any question you are free to take your own.

I always give children's books as gifts. Never too soon to start the reading habit.

SpringerS · 04/04/2016 19:33

Just to add, our have always been Sunday lunch time affairs, so maybe that's different.

LeaLeander · 04/04/2016 19:32

I'm in the US and have never attended a baby shower that did NOT have multiple forms of alcohol. It's one of the few things that make them palatable.

Champagne/sparkling wine, mimosas, wine, beer, cocktails - anything goes here.

huskylover · 04/04/2016 19:30

Of course you should take the prosecco. It's an evening "do" and on a Saturday as well. Your friend sounds stuck up!

Picturesofmatchstickmen · 04/04/2016 19:18

Hmm mixed opinions, don't know what to do now! Don't want to be insensitive obviously - have to say I never minded people having a few drinks when I was pregnant.

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MrsSparkles · 04/04/2016 19:13

I had mine at the pub....

Most of my gifts were for the baby, but I did have a few for me.

Peyia · 04/04/2016 19:12

This is when I realise it's in bad taste and in reality me and my friends are piss artists!!! To be fair I don't drink whilst pregnant but have pop in a flute

SpringerS · 04/04/2016 19:12

I wouldn't. I've been to a few as I've an American friend who throws one whenever a friend of our is expecting and tea, coffee, juice or soft drinks is what we drink. I'd feel like a bit of a wa**er bringing or drinking alcohol at a party to celebrate someone who can't drink. It seems super thoughtless. Like bringing my own bar of chocolate to eat at a party to celebrate someone with diabetes.

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