Aibu to resent being expected to continue to be a free childcare service to my ex even though it greatly reduces the time that i can work?
We have been seperated for 2yrs, and are currently divorcing.
We have 50/50 shared care for our two young children who adore both of us and have been in the same routine for the last two years.
My ex wants to now swap the routine around as his job is changing and his days off will now be in the half of the week that i currently have the children. He has a decent enough salary and can afford either not to work the hours he is choosing or to pay for childcare in his time with the children.
I am a lone parent with no available help from family currently looking for low paid part time work to fit around the time that the children are with him. I have been a sahp to our children for the last 7yrs and already finding it tough to find a job to fit in with the available time that i have.My problem with the proposed swap is that it will further limit the time i can work from three days down to two as it will mean i will have the children for three week days instead of the two that i currently have them. We have split the child benefit so i would only get help with childcare costs for one of the children if i were to swap and would be struggling to make ends meet if i needed to cover the childcare costs as well due to me having the children for an extra day during the week.
He has said to me that i should swap or he will be seeking to have more than 50% of the time with the children to make up for the time that he is working and having to pay for childcare.
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to no longer want to provide free childcare for my exp
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ratburger56 · 30/03/2016 22:47
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