Dp says I'm very dismissive when we're chatting but I think he just waffles on so much that by the end I don't care.
Example he's watching fast and furious 6 this evening and he mentioned they must have a large car budget I said they probably get them for free in return for advertising because alot of car heads watch the show. He then went on to tell me about when he was a teenager and hanging out with friends the group that he had were into cars and that when they got together they'd watch fast and furious and he wasnt into cars but they were and blah blah blah blah.
I don't care about that we've been together 10 years I've heard most of his stories before. Aibu he also repeats himself during conversations it's hard to explain but very annoying. Of course I'm dismissive at the end of it.
AIBU?
I'm oh so dismissive
Standingonmytippytoes · 19/03/2016 22:33
'He also kept giving me updates on the movie because I missed the start i kept saying I'm not watching this. It got to the point I had to say stop giving me updates I don't care.'
I would say why doesn't he listen to what you're saying but that'd be a bit rich really 
It's inevitable that you're going to talk about things you maybe find tedious at times after 10 years together, but if it's obviously one sided and happening so often that it's pushed you into taking your chances in AIBU, does that mean you have more problems than you shutting the fuck up and politely listening could realistically solve?
Yeah, I hear you OP.
DH talks AT me sometimes. Well, a lot of the time. I used to try to be interested, but I have given up now. I don't want to hear in depth lectures on the pyramids in Egypt or about remapping cars. I mean, the things he is into...it just boggles.
I started refusing to listen when it became apparent that he didn't listen to me in return. I don't mind having a chat, as in, an actual two way conversation, about something, but he has the tendency to tediously link it to something he can lecture on. I call them his political broadcasts :o and once I say "You are having a political broadcast" he usually gets the hint and shuts up.
He also makes a story that anyone could tell in 5 mins last 15 mins. I now make a rolling motion with my hand so he will just skip to the end. That sounds so bad. :o 
His inability to leave a room when he says he is going to is another thing that drives me bonkers. He will stand up, say he is off to get a drink or whatever, and 5 mins later I will look up and he is still standing there, talking to me about something, and I haven't been listening because he told me he was leaving the room. Or he will just be standing there still, edging towards the door. I just don't get it. Just walk out the door! 
This post makes me sound awful, and makes our relationship sound awful, but its not at all and I am actually very nice. He is equally dismissive of me and my ramblings. But we do have loads of common ground that we can chat about for hours.
I had a boyfriend who would do a variation of this. He would for example say 'have I told you about the time X did Y?' And I's usually have heard it before and would say oh yes, you have, so funny/sad/etc. And then he would without fail proceed to tell the whole story again, complete with actions and often voices. Every time.
He didn't care that I'd heard it. He didn't want to talk to me, just at me. It was absolutely maddening and it got to the point I would just walk off on the middle of his ridiculous charades.
We broke up
Dp is away with work. He was doing this droning on about boring shite tonight on the phone.
I just hung up
OP I feel your pain
My mum is like this
I used to ask her to get to the point, she'd get upset and say "I'm making conversation!"
She really does find it upsetting so I'm afraid I now just pretend to listen and interject many mmms. She'll even tell me what happened at the Post Office eg "I paid this bill and bought stamps".
Luckily I live alone. If I lived with someone I think I'd rather they were the silent type who only spoke when necessary joking aside does that sound like you?
i hate to use the c word but I fear some compromise might be needed here.
I know a man who orates. At length, about everything, and repeatedly. He assumes everyone is fascinated by him (or insists they must be) and knows more about how everyone should live their lives than they do. We don't get on: he was repeating an extremely racist story, which we'd all heard many times before, and I left the room in order not to offend. He was offended.
His wife's adorable. I found out her first husband was severely abusive, and I guess she thinks this one's worth putting up with as he limits his domination to the verbal (
) She "yes dear"s all the time, but he still loses his rag when he notices she's not paying attention.
Anyway ... it's the combination of insistent yatter AND the anger, isn't it? Just massive, overbearing entitlement. Would piss me off no end, too!
No suggestions, I'm afraid, tippy. If you're going to stick it out, you'll have to develop the art of seeming to listen while entertaining yourself with happy fantasies, like all the other women on the planet with self-important husbands.
Good luck!
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